Hello, folks!
In the hustle and bustle of the modern world, it’s easy to collect up tension, to get stuck in our heads and disconnected from our bodies. Stress builds up, and our nervous systems get thrown out of whack, taking a toll on every area of our lives.
Tantric massage is an amazing way to reset your nervous system, deepen into the senses, and even enhance our capacity for true intimacy. It offers relaxation and relief from both physical and emotional tension.
More than that, tantric massages can help us to reconnect with ourselves. To breathe, open into the sensual experience, and bring the heart, and body into harmony.
Those who have received tantra massage firsthand know exactly what it has to offer. But for beginners, for those who haven’t yet experienced it, this tantra massage guide will cover expectations and preparations for your first tantra massage.
What is Tantra Massage?
Massage is deeply healing in itself. It draws upon the power of touch to release tension and ease stress out of the body. It’s natural therapy that deserves a place in everyone’s self-care regimen.
Tantra massage takes this to the next level. In addition to physical touch, tantra massage works directly with the subtle energies of the body. The subtle energy directs the function of the whole being, so this kind of work can offer deep and transformative healing, physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
The focus of tantra massage is to awaken the sexual energy and move it freely throughout the entire body. In the process, it releases tension, clears energetic blocks, and allows us to reconnect with our natural baseline of sensual pleasure.
Tantra is, at its core, a practice of cultivating consciousness through the body. When we allow energy to flow freely through the body, we also awaken to our awareness of our whole being. As we become more relaxed and the energy flows more freely through us, the senses open up, and we begin feeling and seeing things that we had been too focused to take in before. The whole being begins to come together and operate as a unit, instead of many competing tunes and rhythms.
Tantra massage is a sensual journey that begins with touch and honours our sexual nature. It’s an intentional experience that realigns our beings from outside in with touch, and from inside out with energy. It invites presence and helps us to surrender, teaching us to be completely here and now, in the body and the heart.
One important feature of the tantra massage is that it is a full-body experience. This includes the genitals. The purpose of the massage is to raise sexual energy and circulate it throughout the body.
The real magic comes when we can learn to relax completely, to let the energy build to greater and greater intensity, awakening every part of our body and being. As you learn to embody this energy and awareness, you will become more vital and radiant, and life will begin to open up on every level.
Tantra Massage Benefits
Tantra massage is a holistic healing experience that touches every part of the being: physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual. It helps to cultivate mindfulness, deepen relaxation, and soften into connection.
Here are just a few of the benefits you receive from tantric bodywork:
- Relieves stress and deepens relaxation
- Increases sensitivity and enhances sensuality
- Improves wellbeing, bringing higher levels of happiness and satisfaction in daily life
- Teaches men greater orgasm control and even multiple orgasms
- Boosts vitality and youthfulness
- Increases our capacity for love, trust, surrender and intimacy
- Enhances libido and boosts sexual desire
- Supports physical healing through reflexology points in the genitals
Tantra Massage Expectations
One of the key goals of tantra is to get out of the head and into the body. And one way to do this is to drop expectations and get present, to surrender and go with the flow.
That said, if you’re considering your first tantra massage, it helps to know at least a bit of what to expect.
In some ways, receiving a tantra massage is similar to receiving other forms of massage. You’ll be offered a comfortable space where you can remove your clothing, lie on a massage table, and receive therapeutic touch.
One key difference is that the therapist will first connect deeply with their own energy, and then synchronise with yours. You’ll be guided to relax and breathe deeply and evenly, and the therapist will match their breath to yours, bringing your bodies into resonance.
As the massage progresses, energy is delivered to the body alongside touch. This opens and activates the energy centres, offering a rush of warmth and sensitivity that builds and amplifies, spreading throughout the entire body.
The entire experience is a practice in presence, keeping with the breath and the senses. Even when it progresses to the genitals and the energy becomes sexual, the key is to remain relaxed, present, and in complete surrender to the sensation. Keep breathing, and allow the energy to flow through the entire body, rather than being focused only on the genitals. This is a deeply healing aspect of the experience, helping us to reconnect with our sensual and sexual nature.
Preparing for Your First Tantra Massage
Preparing for your first tantra massage is pretty simple. The first step is to find a skilled and experienced therapist.
Once you have found the right practitioner for you, the next step is to set intentions, to be clear about what you would like to work on. And finally, to get the most out of the experience, it helps to practice relaxation and breathing practices before the session.
First, remember that the goal is presence. A moment fully alive, awake in the body. Really feeling what is happening right now. And that means surrender, relaxing, and allowing the energy and sensation to flow without obstruction.
Choose a reputable and experienced therapist
One of the most important aspects of preparing for your first tantra massage is to find a fully trained, highly experienced, and deeply reputable practitioner.
It’s important that the therapist is trained specifically in tantra massage, as this is a unique form of touch and energy that requires its own form of training. It’s best if the therapist has many hours of massage experience under their belt. And you’ll want a very clean energy, with clear professional lines.
The best way to choose a practitioner is to speak to them. Find out about their training, how long they have been offering these services, and how they approach the work both practically and spiritually.
The goal is to find a practitioner that makes you feel safe, comfortable, and well-held. If their experience and training is good, and if you feel safe and held in interaction with them, then you’ve found a practitioner that resonates with you.
Set Clear Intentions
Setting intentions is one of the most important keys to any successful endeavour. When we are clear about what we want, what our goals are, and how we are approaching them, then things progress much more smoothly.
So, when setting intentions for your first tantra massage, consider what you would most like to get from the experience. You might have come to tantra massage while seeking deeper relaxation, physical healing, emotional breakthrough, or a deepening of your capacity for presence.
When we set our intentions, we dedicate the activity to those intentions, and the effects become more profound. So, if you approach tantra massage with a clear intention of physical healing, then your body and mind calibrate to receive this healing from the session.
Whatever your intentions, share these with the therapist. If you have any boundaries or things that you don’t want in the massage, share these as well. This ensures that both giver and receiver are on the same page, making a smoother and more focused experience.
Final Words
Tantra is one of the most deeply transformative and healing practices around. It works on every level of the being to provide relaxation, healing, and presence. And regular tantra massage can help you to step into new depths of emotional and sexual freedom.
When preparing for your first session, get clear about why you would like this experience and practice getting present and in the body with breath and relaxation. Make sure you vet the practitioner well and feel comfortable with them before you choose them for your session.
And remember, the massage is just the first step. As you move through the day, continue to cultivate the same presence and connection with the body that you have experienced in the session.
This transforms a massage into a deep and powerful experience that improves every aspect of your life.
Love and light, folks!
Taranga