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Giving and Receiving

Giving and Receiving

Sometimes I like to stop and think of how grateful I am to be working in a field I enjoy so much. I live and breathe every word you see on my website and in my blogs. I love giving you all information and seeing how you receive it. And that has made me suddenly very aware of how much easier it is for me to give than it is to receive. And yet, I doubt I’m alone in that.

For most of us, it just feels much more within our comfort zone to give. For instance, think about the joy you get from seeing someone’s face light up as they open a present you’ve bought them or the pleasure of preparing a delicious meal for someone special. You love that feeling of knowing you did something to make someone happy, right? It’s clear that giving is easy.

Receiving, on the other hand, can make us uncomfortable for many reasons. It’s as though we’re hardwired to feel guilty for receiving something in return or pleasure. That’s true in most instances, especially when it comes to sex. Most of us seem to believe that sex should be about giving and receiving pleasure at the same time. But how can we fully enjoy our own pleasure when we’re simultaneously trying to give to our partner? Think about one popular sex position where you give and receive at the same time. It’s hard to keep giving when what you’re receiving is so pleasurable, right?

Breaking The Cycle

There’s a way around this and it’s more simple than you think. It’s communication. So let’s learn how to do this.

Step 1: Agree to take turns with your lover, so you can both experience separate moments of giving and receiving. Set your intentions before you start by deciding who’s going to give and receive pleasure at which point.

Step 2: Ask for what you want. Tell your partner what you like and in detail. Ask them to go a little harder or more gently. Tell them if you want more tongue or less. Let them know exactly what you desire. Once you do this, you’ll be able to enjoy the experience of receiving, without feeling guilty about whether your partner’s having a good time. That weight will be lifted off your shoulders.

Remember that conscious receiving means staying awake and present at the moment. No matter what’s going on, you don’t want to drift away into another thought. Master this practice, and you’ll be able to surrender and enjoy a fulfilled sex life.

And if you ever feel guilt taking over, remember that it’s completely okay to have your own moment to receive pleasure without doing any giving.

In gratitude


Why Every Couple Needs a Couples Massage

How would you like to give back to your body and get closer to your partner, all at the same time?

A couples massage is a wonderful way to not only relax and unwind, but also to strengthen the bond between partners. This special type of massage allows couples to share a unique and intimate experience, as they both receive massages in the same room.

Here are just a few of the ways that a couples massage can help strengthen your relationship:

Shared Experience

One of the benefits of a couples massage is the shared experience that partners can enjoy together. It allows both individuals to unwind and de-stress in each other’s company. This can help to create a deeper sense of connection and intimacy between partners, as they share the same peaceful and relaxing environment.

Mutual Relaxation

We all know that a massage is great for relaxation, but did you know that the effects are even more pronounced when shared with a loved one? As both partners receive massages at the same time, they can both experience a deeper level of relaxation and stress relief. This can create a sense of calm and tranquility, which helps to reduce tension and improve communication between partners.

Enhanced Communication

A couples massage can also improve communication between partners. When both individuals are relaxed and calm, they may

find it easier to communicate their thoughts and feelings. This makes space for a more open and honest dialogue, leading to a deeper understanding and appreciation of one another.

 Increased Intimacy

The intimate nature of a couples massage can help to increase intimacy between partners. As both individuals are in a state of relaxation and trust, they may feel more comfortable expressing their love and affection for one another. This can help to create a deeper emotional connection, which can translate into a stronger physical connection as well.

Mutual Health Benefits

Massage has been shown to have numerous health benefits, including improved circulation, reduced stress and anxiety, and relief from muscle tension and pain. When both partners receive a massage, they can both experience these benefits together. This can help to create a shared sense of well-being and improved health, which can contribute to a happier and more fulfilling relationship.

Whether you’re celebrating a special occasion or simply looking to connect with your partner on a deeper level, a couples massage is a great option. It can be a memorable and rewarding experience that brings you closer together. So why not schedule a couples massage today and discover the many benefits for yourself?

In gratitude,


Edging and the Tantric Experience

Edging and the Tantric Experience

While I’m usually not a big fan of studies and statistics, there’s one that caught my attention. One study shows that it takes, on average, 5.4 minutes for a man to reach orgasm once he has entered a woman.

Now that 5.4 minutes could include things we’re not aware of like foreplay, but let’s be real. That’s a bit anticlimactic.

The good news is that this doesn’t have to be the case. There’s one simple thing that could make sex last for hours and hours. By learning about our bodies and the art of lovemaking, sex can become more fulfilling, more pleasurable, and infinitely more satisfying.

It’s something that maybe you’ve already heard of; edging.

All too often, our intimate play becomes a rushed process. One, sex shouldn’t be thought of as some type of process or chore. Two, something as sensual and exciting as this shouldn’t be rushed. The excitement hits, the clothes come off, and you’re into it, hot and heavy. Then, before you know it, it’s done. It’s over. In many cases leaving one or both of you unsatisfied.

But what would happen if you slowed down? What would happen if you and your partner allowed that orgasmic energy to build up, bringing it almost to the point where release becomes inevitable? Or allow the sexual energy to build, letting it get really intense, and then slowing down to a soft and sensual rhythm?

What is Edging?

In simple terms, edging is the practise of orgasm control. In edging, you build up the orgasm, raise the sensations almost to the peak, and then relax away from it. Slowly, the sexual energy builds to levels you can’t even imagine if you haven’t tried it. The results are amazing! When the orgasm arrives, it’s explosive. I’m talking body-shaking, toe-curling, massive rushes of sensual pleasure all over. Addicting. It’s extremely addicting and once you start practising it, you won’t want to stop.

Edging can help a man to last much longer in the bedroom, and help him to slow down and tune in to the subtle signals of his body. This makes lovemaking sessions much more enjoyable and sensual. Men who practise edging find that they have a stronger sex drive, have more control over when they choose to orgasm, and sometimes experience multiple orgasms. There are many benefits to edging for men!

But this isn’t just for the guys. Women can experience the same deepening of sensual experience and unbelievable heightening of pleasure as well. This is great for those of us who want to experience multiple orgasms and more erotic moments. It can deepen the state of arousal, bring in a sense of euphoria, and put you in a state of altered consciousness. Edging is a key element in the practise of tantra.

Tantra and Edging

Tantra is an exploration of the sexual energy, learning how to build it, feel it, and channel it through the body. Tantra is one of my favorite things to discuss and for good reason. Through my research and experiences, I’ve had some of the most amazing erotic moments practising tantra. The beautiful thing about the practise of edging is that it leads you straight into this deeper connection with the sexual energies.

In building the orgasmic energy, you allow it to spread throughout the body rather than just being confined to the sexual organs that are always the focus. The practice of tantra deepens this experience by connecting with the breath, slowing it down, and matching it with your partner. Breathing as one, moving as one, and feeling as one is the ultimate goal. By being one, there is no limit to the sensual moments you can experience. Try to think of this as a selfless experience where you both receive the ultimate gift in the end.

You want to allow the energy to rise and fall together, rather than pushing the experience to orgasm. The important thing to remember is that you want every single sensual experience you share with your lover to be exquisite and unforgettable.

Whether you’re needing to spice up things in your life or you want to dig a bit deeper, edging can help to take your lovemaking to new levels. The next time you’re in that intimate space with your lover, tune in. Slow down. Try breathing together, and taking the time to really feel the connection. Bring it up to the edge, and then back down. Control your sexual desires. Breathe the energy up through the body and through the heart. Then allow it to build again, letting the moment deepen and become more exquisite with each new experience.

In gratitude


Myth Busted: All Genitals Are Alike

Who doesn’t like to bust a myth from time to time? It’s always good to challenge our assumptions, and we tend to have loads of them around sexuality.

For too long, the myth has persisted that all genitalia are created equal. It’s time to break down this misconception and acknowledge the truth: all genitalia are unique, just like every other part of our bodies.

Many people are taught to believe that there are only two types of genitals: the penis and the vagina. But the reality is far more complex than that. The truth is that there is a wide variety of genital anatomy, and that everyone’s genitals are different.

One of the biggest misconceptions about genitals is that there is a “normal” or “ideal” way for them to look. In reality, there is no such thing as a “normal” or “ideal” genital appearance. Every individual has their own unique genital shape, size, and appearance. Just like every person’s face, hair, and body are different, so too are their genitals.

It’s important to recognize that genital diversity is not only natural, but also healthy. The more we understand and accept the range of genital variations, the less we stigmatize and shame people for their bodies. We can, instead, promote more positive attitudes toward sexual health and pleasure.

Another common myth is that people with certain types of genitals are more or less sexual than others. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Sexual arousal and pleasure are not determined by genital size, shape, or appearance. Rather, they are influenced by a complex interplay of physical, emotional, and psychological factors.

Unfortunately, many people still hold on to outdated and harmful beliefs about genitalia. For example, some believe that people with larger genitalia are more sexually desirable. Others view small genitalia as a sign of weakness or inferiority. These attitudes can lead to negative body image and self-esteem issues, as well as sexual dysfunction and dissatisfaction.

To break down these harmful beliefs, we need to promote a more inclusive and accepting attitude toward genital diversity. This means acknowledging and celebrating the unique features of all genitalia, rather than trying to fit them into narrow and unrealistic beauty standards.

It’s time to debunk the myth that all genitals are alike. By embracing the diversity of our bodies, we can promote a healthier and more positive attitude toward sexual health and pleasure. So let’s celebrate the beautiful, complex, and unique diversity of genitalia, and strive to create a more inclusive and accepting world for all.

In Gratitude,


Getting Happy and Healthy with Daily Orgasms

Ok so today we’re going to talk about orgasms!

We all know that orgasms can feel amazing. But what you might like to know is that they’re also really good for your health. Studies suggest that regular orgasms can help to reduce stress, boost mood, improve sleep, and even strengthen the immune system. In this blog, we’ll explore the benefits of daily orgasms and how you can incorporate them into your self-care routine.

First, let’s talk about mental health. Orgasms release endorphins, the body’s natural feel good chemicals. This can help to reduce feelings of stress and anxiety, improve our mood, and even alleviate symptoms of depression. The act of orgasm itself can be a form of self-care, allowing you to take time to focus on your body and your pleasure.

But the benefits of orgasms don’t stop there. They can also have a positive impact on physical health. Studies show that orgasms can help to reduce blood pressure, boost the immune system, and even improve sleep quality. This is because orgasms trigger the release of hormones like oxytocin and prolactin, which have been linked to overall health and wellness.

So, how can you incorporate daily orgasms into your self-care routine? Here are some tips:

Prioritize Self-Pleasure

Self-pleasure is a great way to explore your body and learn what feels good. Set aside time each day to focus on yourself and your pleasure, without any pressure to perform or achieve a certain outcome.

Communicate with Your Partner

If you have a partner, communicate your desires and needs in the bedroom. Talk openly about what you enjoy and what you want to try, and work together to create a fulfilling sexual experience for both of you.

Experiment with Different Techniques

There are many different techniques and toys that can help to enhance your orgasmic experience. Try exploring different techniques like edging, or experiment with sex toys like vibrators or dildos.

Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness can help you to stay present in the moment and fully experience the sensations of pleasure during orgasm. Try practicing mindfulness techniques like deep breathing or body scans during self-pleasure or partnered sex.

Prioritize your overall health

While orgasms can have many health benefits, they are just one aspect of overall health and wellness. Make sure to prioritize other aspects of self-care, like exercise, healthy eating, and adequate sleep, to support your physical and mental health.

Well, there you have it, folks. Orgasms aren’t just fun, they’re also healthy. Sounds like we have a yummy addition to our daily routine.

In Gratitude,


Moans & Groans: Why Sound is Good in Sex

Sex can be one of the most beautiful experiences in life. But did you know the power of sound can make it feel even better?

From moans and groans to whispered words of pleasure, sound can add a whole new dimension to the sexual experience. In this blog, we’ll explore why sound is good in sex and how to use it to take your play to new heights.

First, let’s look at the physiological effects. Moaning and groaning can help to regulate breathing and increase oxygen flow to the body. Deeper breathing and vocalizing also stimulate the release of endorphins, the body’s natural feel-good chemicals. This can lead to a more intense and pleasurable sexual experience, as well as a deeper sense of intimacy with your partner.

But it doesn’t stop there. Moans and groans can also serve as a form of communication between partners, indicating pleasure and helping to guide the sexual experience. This can help to create a sense of vulnerability and trust, allowing partners to fully let go and surrender to the moment.

So, how can you unlock the power of sound during sex? Here are some tips:

Focus on Your Breath

Sound is often closely tied to breath, so focusing on your breath during sex can help to naturally encourage moans and groans. Take deep, slow breaths and exhale with a sigh or moan to create a natural rhythm of sound.

Embrace Vulnerability

It can be intimidating to let go and make noise during sex, but embracing vulnerability means allowing yourself to feel and express pleasure. Remember that making noise is a natural and healthy part of sexual expression.

Communicate with Your Partner

Breath and sound can serve as a form of communication between partners. Without even saying a word, we can guide our partner, letting them know what we enjoy. Make sure to communicate with your partner, letting them know what feels good and encouraging them to do the same.

Experiment with Different Sounds

Moaning and groaning are just two examples of sounds that can enhance the sexual experience. Try experimenting with different sounds, like whispered words or even screams, to see what feels good and adds to the moment.

Don’t Be Afraid to Be Loud!

While some people may be more reserved during sex, making noise is a natural and healthy part of sexual expression. Don’t be afraid to let go and be loud, if that’s what feels good for you and your partner.

So to recap, sound can add a whole new dimension to the sexual experience! It can heighten pleasure, deepen intimacy, and strengthen the connection between you and your partner.

But don’t take my word for it! Try it out yourself and unlock the power of sound in your own sexual experiences and enjoy all the benefits it has to offer. Who’s ready to make a little noise?

In gratitude,


The Art of Touch

Do you know how to touch?

There is a certain art to touching that many don’t know of. You might think it’s as simple as placing the palm of your hand somewhere, but it goes deeper than that. If you’ve read some of my other articles, you probably know that the human touch has a lot of health benefits. Besides releasing happy chemicals and feeling better overall, being touched is in our human nature.

But do you know the art of touching? Do you know how to properly touch someone or even yourself?

When touching someone, you want to touch with the whole hand and not just the fingers or palm. Place your entire hand on the body. This lets the receiver know you’re present and helps them to feel confident.

When you touch the body slowly and with awareness, you are more present and in tune with your partner. When this happens you become one with the other. It’s like you’re in sync. With this, the possibilities for your intimate play are endless.

Implementing Touch

When receiving touch, each person generally likes it to be exactly how they feel it’s needed for their own particular body. We all have desires and individual needs that we would like met. It’s important that both you and your partner are responsive to requests. You do this by simply asking your lover what they need at the moment. Listen to what they’re telling you, then act on their feedback. It’s important to not guess what your partner enjoys. Being verbal and direct is best for the sensual experience.

Sometimes you may not have anyone around to touch, but still want to enjoy the pleasure. Always touch yourself with meaning and allow the energy in your body to flow. Feel everything in the moment and drop other thoughts from your mind.

If experiencing touch in this way is new for you, remember to take things slow and communicate clear desires. When trying to implement something new into your life, it’s important to practice and be consistent in your efforts. In time, the art of touching will be second nature to you and you’ll continue to enjoy the many benefits it offers.

Remember to enjoy yourself and let go.
Now I want you to experience this new art of touching for yourself.

In gratitude


Sex and Power: Taking the blinders off

Sex and Power:Taking the blinders off

We’ve all had burning desires we want to experience in this lifetime. Some of them may even be a bit illicit but a desire nonetheless.

Maybe you want your lover to push you down on the bed, slip your panties off and slide their tongue between your legs without hesitation.You want to be teased until you can’t control yourself and beg and plead to have them inside of you.

Sex and power seem to go hand and hand.

There’s a primal side to our nature and it needs to be expressed. Often in our everyday lives, we suppress that desire to exert our power when it comes to our pleasures. Sometimes we want to let go and tap into that wild side.

This primal nature that we have is part of being human. It is the source of our joy and drive. Sex is an act that makes us vulnerable and gives us the opportunity to express ourselves deeply to another. Our most intense, most passionate selves. But it goes a bit deeper than this.

BDSM & Power

Bondassage and BDSM are about enforcing power and giving it away. It’s an opportunity to honour these secret passions, to look our deepest nature in the face and give it full expression. It’s a chance to move into a place of acceptance of these desires, as healthy and right.

When we step out of our everyday roles, we get to experience different possibilities and change the narrative of our lives. By stepping out, we give ourselves permission to take control and to give control of ourselves to another. All of this is power.

This means shining a light on those hidden desires and letting them be seen. And it means moving into a place of trust.This includes trusting ourselves to act from those depths of intensity and to be received.We also have to remember to trust our lover to take control and show us how exciting it can be to really let go.

Unfortunately, society has cast a shadow on these more primal sides of being human. Most of us aren’t programmed to show our sexual side or our vulnerable selves willingly. Many equate being so open and free with derogatory terms. This is a habit that needs to be broken.

Those who have dipped into the deeper side of their beings are healthier and more comfortable with themselves.They know who they are and what they want. They understand themselves in and out and welcome the sensual aspects of life.

Letting Go

Authenticity and consciousness in relation are more than just being honest and calm when explaining issues. It also means letting yourself explore those juicy exciting bits of sensuality, within yourself and in your partner. Sometimes it means trying something new and understanding that no risk means no gain.

It means opening those doors of sexuality that were locked for no good reason and letting the energy move you, in the way it wants. Sincerity means
screaming your pleasure and letting your body feel the deep pleasures of being comfortable in your sensuality.

Now I want you to let yourself feel what it wants. I want you to stop blocking the energy that your body wants to feel. Let go and you may surprise yourself with what you gain.

In Gratitude


Bondassage: The Hottest Gift Around

Hey, folks. Now, many of you may be familiar with Bondassage already, but for the new explorers, let’s go back to basics.

In recent years, a new form of sensual massage has emerged called “Bondassage”. This unique form of bodywork combines elements of bondage, sensory deprivation, and massage to create a deeply immersive and transformative experience.

Let’s take a closer look at what Bondassage is and see what it has to offer.

What is Bondassage?

Bondassage is as a way to help clients explore their desires and boundaries in a safe and consensual environment. It combines elements of bondage, sensory deprivation, and massage to create a unique and immersive experience that can be deeply relaxing and transformative.

During a Bondassage session, the client is typically blindfolded and restrained using various forms of bondage, such as handcuffs or silk scarves. The practitioner then uses a combination of massage techniques, including Lomi Lomi, Swedish etc. This stimulates the client’s senses, helping them to relax and surrender to the experience.

Benefits of Bondassage

1. Deep Relaxation: Bondassage is a deeply relaxing experience. It’s a beautiful way to reduce stress and anxiety. By creating a safe and consensual environment and stimulating the senses, Bondassage can help to release tension and promote a sense of calm and tranquility.

2. Enhanced Sensuality: Bondassage is a sensual exploration. It helps us to tune in to our senses and become alive to our bodies. By exploring new sensations and stimulating erogenous zones, Bondassage can help clients to reconnect with their bodies and deepen their capacity for pleasure.

3. Exploration of Desires: Bondassage can be a powerful tool for exploring desires and boundaries in a safe and consensual environment. By creating a space for open communication and exploration, Bondassage can help you to gain a better understanding of their sexual preferences and boundaries.

4. Increased Intimacy: Bondassage can be a powerful way for couples to connect on a deeper level. By exploring new sensations and boundaries together, couples can share new levels of intimacy and strengthen the bond between them.

5. Self-Awareness: Bondassage can be a transformative experience that can help clients to gain a better understanding of themselves and their bodies. By exploring new sensations and boundaries, you can gain a greater sense of self-awareness and self-acceptance.

Remember folks, Bondassage should only be performed by a trained and certified practitioner. The practitioner should also have a thorough understanding of BDSM practices and principles and should prioritize the safety and well-being of their clients at all times.

Bondassage is a unique and immersive form of sensual massage that can offer a wide range of benefits. Deep relaxation. Enhanced sensuality. Increased intimacy. An exploration of your desires.

If you’re interested in exploring Bondassage, be sure to seek out a qualified and experienced practitioner (such as myself), and approach the experience with an open and curious mindset.

Happy Bondassage,

In gratitude Taranga

Your Garden – To Trim or Not to Trim?

To Trim or Not to Trim?

We all have different preferences when it comes to our body hair. Some enjoy a full bush while others like it neatly trimmed.There are also those who like their hair shaped. Basically, we all have different preferences which make us unique.

So many young women and men feel pressured to remove their body hair. Modern media and the porn industry depict sexuality with hairlessness, but this wasn’t always the case.

Body hair is a symbol of maturity and a new life. Biologically, our body hair collects and releases pheromones.These are the chemicals that signal sexual readiness and evoke powerful responses in our partners. Society has an obsession with having a hairless vagina because public opinion states that this is the sexier option.And this doesn’t just go for women.

Men are also now being pressured to be hairless.We all know how society loves to shift what we deem as sexy and unsexy. But, if you enjoy the feel of your body without hair, then you should continue doing that without making others feel inferior for their decision to be hairy.

So I want you to think about this.Are you grooming your body the way you like or the way you expect others to like it?

Do you enjoy your body the way it is currently? How do you like to feel? Is your regimen regarding body hair based upon what you want or what society deems as acceptable? I can go on and on with questions, but ultimately it’s important that people feel comfortable in the skin they’re in.

When it comes down to it, personal grooming is a personal choice. It should be something you like.You have every right to groom yourself to fit the way that you like to feel.There are no laws governing your hair.

Hairy Myths

Just about everything has a myth or two surrounding it and our body hair is no different. The clean-shaven vulva is neither sexier nor more hygienic than the glorious full bush. Both are beautiful, as is anything in between. As

I’ve previously stated, it all comes down to personal preference. This also applies to men. Removing our pubic hair can offer a sleek, smooth finish, but it also removes one of the most tangible signs of masculinity and virility. However, removing hair can clear the path

for anal play or other sexual acts. But practical concerns aside, our body hair is one of the most intimate aspects of our appearance. Everything we do is a reflection of our most personal choices.These choices make us unique. And there is no one outside of ourselves who can tell us what is right for us.

When it comes right down to it, we want to be accepted for who we are and the decisions we make. Without masks or games, without expectations or roles.And this extends to even the most personal aspects of how we present ourselves to one another and to the world.While we all want someone who understands us without limit, it’s important that we first understand ourselves.

So I ask this question again, what do you prefer? If you love to shave or wax, that’s amazing. Keep doing what you feel is right for you. If you’re only going through these waxing and hairless challenges to appease a man or fit in with some cultural image, dig deeper.

One of the simplest and most eloquent ways for us to take back our power is to determine what we like and how we want to implement this image into our lives. Anyone who is worth keeping around will both respect and love us for exactly what we like.

If you’re having challenges with societal pressures and want to truly find what you like for yourself, I invite you to practise relaxation and kindness. Sometimes we’re too hard on ourselves. So today, be kind not only to others but to yourself in your journey of finding what you truly enjoy.

In Gratitude