Edging and the Tantric Experience
While I’m usually not a big fan of studies and statistics, there’s one that caught my attention. One study shows that it takes, on average, 5.4 minutes for a man to reach orgasm once he has entered a woman.
Now that 5.4 minutes could include things we’re not aware of like foreplay, but let’s be real. That’s a bit anticlimactic.
The good news is that this doesn’t have to be the case. There’s one simple thing that could make sex last for hours and hours. By learning about our bodies and the art of lovemaking, sex can become more fulfilling, more pleasurable, and infinitely more satisfying.
It’s something that maybe you’ve already heard of; edging.
All too often, our intimate play becomes a rushed process. One, sex shouldn’t be thought of as some type of process or chore. Two, something as sensual and exciting as this shouldn’t be rushed. The excitement hits, the clothes come off, and you’re into it, hot and heavy. Then, before you know it, it’s done. It’s over. In many cases leaving one or both of you unsatisfied.
But what would happen if you slowed down? What would happen if you and your partner allowed that orgasmic energy to build up, bringing it almost to the point where release becomes inevitable? Or allow the sexual energy to build, letting it get really intense, and then slowing down to a soft and sensual rhythm?
What is Edging?
In simple terms, edging is the practise of orgasm control. In edging, you build up the orgasm, raise the sensations almost to the peak, and then relax away from it. Slowly, the sexual energy builds to levels you can’t even imagine if you haven’t tried it. The results are amazing! When the orgasm arrives, it’s explosive. I’m talking body-shaking, toe-curling, massive rushes of sensual pleasure all over. Addicting. It’s extremely addicting and once you start practising it, you won’t want to stop.
Edging can help a man to last much longer in the bedroom, and help him to slow down and tune in to the subtle signals of his body. This makes lovemaking sessions much more enjoyable and sensual. Men who practise edging find that they have a stronger sex drive, have more control over when they choose to orgasm, and sometimes experience multiple orgasms. There are many benefits to edging for men!
But this isn’t just for the guys. Women can experience the same deepening of sensual experience and unbelievable heightening of pleasure as well. This is great for those of us who want to experience multiple orgasms and more erotic moments. It can deepen the state of arousal, bring in a sense of euphoria, and put you in a state of altered consciousness. Edging is a key element in the practise of tantra.
Tantra and Edging
Tantra is an exploration of the sexual energy, learning how to build it, feel it, and channel it through the body. Tantra is one of my favorite things to discuss and for good reason. Through my research and experiences, I’ve had some of the most amazing erotic moments practising tantra. The beautiful thing about the practise of edging is that it leads you straight into this deeper connection with the sexual energies.
In building the orgasmic energy, you allow it to spread throughout the body rather than just being confined to the sexual organs that are always the focus. The practice of tantra deepens this experience by connecting with the breath, slowing it down, and matching it with your partner. Breathing as one, moving as one, and feeling as one is the ultimate goal. By being one, there is no limit to the sensual moments you can experience. Try to think of this as a selfless experience where you both receive the ultimate gift in the end.
You want to allow the energy to rise and fall together, rather than pushing the experience to orgasm. The important thing to remember is that you want every single sensual experience you share with your lover to be exquisite and unforgettable.
Whether you’re needing to spice up things in your life or you want to dig a bit deeper, edging can help to take your lovemaking to new levels. The next time you’re in that intimate space with your lover, tune in. Slow down. Try breathing together, and taking the time to really feel the connection. Bring it up to the edge, and then back down. Control your sexual desires. Breathe the energy up through the body and through the heart. Then allow it to build again, letting the moment deepen and become more exquisite with each new experience.
In gratitude
Taranga