Experience New Intimacy

I believe we’ve all come to a point where we want to recreate an intense romance that we previously felt. We want to feel those emotions rushing into our bodies and experience that moment where we had complete bliss. You want to go back and indulge once again, but you’re at a crossroads.

Are you experiencing ‘flat-lining’ in your intimate relationship? Have you been feeling that there is no ‘newness’ or sense of adventure? Do you feel that the honeymoon phase is over and nothing has piqued your interest in a while?

If you’re avoiding intimacy because you’re experiencing boredom, you can recreate those early feelings you had and experience that newness you’ve been craving.

It’s very simple actually. It may sound silly for some, but it’s the easiest thing to do. Here’s how — ask permission.

Create a practise in your intimate time, where you ask permission for everything you want to do to your partner. Want to kiss? Ask for permission. Want to touch her there? Ask for permission to do so. By doing this, you’re setting the tone for new intimate moments.

Try asking your partner to have a special intimate moment together in the setting of their choice. If you’d like to surprise them, make sure you know what they like first. You still want to make sure that you ask for permission. This is key.

Creating an atmosphere where there are no distractions. You and your partner should be alone with no electronics or extra bodies.

Nurture your beloved. Make them feel safe that they can explore intimacy with you again. Listen to their wants and desires and really hear them for who they are. All couples experience different phases of intimacy as they grow together, but it’s important that we all try to stay selfless in the process.

There are many ways you can heighten your level of intimacy with your partner. Making dinner, washing one another’s hair, and giving one another massages, or all great ways to bring back that close connection with your partner.

During your time together, make sure you slow down and ask for permission. Don’t guess and do what you “think” your partner would like. Instead, try a new approach and simply ask and see if they will allow you to touch them like this or that.

Ask “may I…?”

You’ll notice the change in your intimacy and feel like a new person. It’s like pressing the reset button on a monotonous relationship.

I invite you to try it out and give me your results. In gratitude,

Taranga