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I guess the correct way to begin this little blog is to say thank you to all my wonderful clients this year, the joy that you have bought into my world with your kindness, showing up at my door and entering into my blissful room for a yummy experience with me.

But I also feel a deep sense of gratitude that I have been able to stay in my beautiful apartment to see you all. Life is not easy for some in these crazy unsettling times, so I have deep awareness that I have been very lucky and yes, blessed to be able to continue working and seeing you, my wonderful clients.

Just yesterday as I write this blog, people have lost their homes on the Central Coast only 90 minutes from where I reside myself. I know that anything can happen at anytime in our lives.  We must be grateful every single day for our lives, the people in it, and what we have in the moment, here, right now.

As always I wish for peace, tenderness, care, steaming hot latte’s, thoughtfulness, awareness, kindness, positive actions, deepening connections and of course Haighs Truffle Chocolates.

May your Christmas time be one of joy and light heartedness towards others and yourself.

The New Year comes with what the New Year comes with, we all don’t know what that will be course, no one has a Crystal Ball to look into, wouldn’t that be nice.

But I do wish to continue to have lovely clients come and visit me in the New Year and receive touch which we all so deserve in our lives.

For me, well I am having a little time off in January but will be working over the Christmas period if a massage is your fancy.  

Again thank you from the very bottom of my heart to all my wonderful clients.  

Stay safe, drive carefully and enjoy this time of the year whatever you are doing and have planned.

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.

Taranga

Healthy relationships require nurturing. Quality time spent together, intimacy and communication, these things are essential to keep a connection strong. 

But in the fast pace of the modern world, it’s all too easy to let things slide and allow distance to grow. Between routine and distraction, we can easily go on automatic. To keep this from happening, we need to make space for relating, to prioritise shared experience, quality time, and meaningful connection. 

This is where couples’ massage comes in. Couples massage benefits relationships in many ways, from taking time for a shared experience to leveraging the healing power of touch to deepen intimacy. 

The benefits of couples’ massage begin even before the massage itself. When we share a calm, nurturing experience, it relieves stress, helps us to feel more closely connected, and fosters feelings of security and trust between partners. 

And that’s just the beginning. The real magic begins with touch. 

Touch is a powerful form of communication, one that transcends words and has a deep impact on our relationships. Physical touch encourages the release of oxytocin, a hormone associated with bonding and connection. When our oxytocin levels rise, we feel more emotional closeness and intimacy. And better intimacy means a stronger relationship 

Any form of couples’ massage will offer these benefits. In fact, even casual touch like holding hands or hugging encourages the release of oxytocin. But you can take it even further with couples’ Bondassage. This is an ideal way to bring fun and fulfilling sexual play into the connection. It’s an unparalleled way to strengthen desire and boost physical, mental, and emotional connection. 

What is a Couples Massage? 

Couples massage is just what it sounds like. It’s a massage experience that you can share, two people receiving a massage side-by-side in the same room. Often, each person is attended to by their own massage therapist, ensuring equal levels of care. 

With me as your practitioner, the couples massage is a little different.  It comes in the form of a workshop learning experience, where each person spends time on the table while the other partner learns how to give sensual massage to his/her partner. Before swapping over there is time for sharing with some food and drink.  This experience allows you to take home this knowledge and evolve it into your sexual repertoire. 

The beautiful thing about couples’ massage is that it offers an opportunity to relax together, to share quality time in a peaceful and nurturing setting, and to receive touch therapy. Shared experiences make stronger bonds. Shared stress relief uplifts the mood and fosters feelings of joy. And touch soothes and aligns your nervous system and biochemistry with that of your partner. 

Couples massage can also be tailored to your needs and desires. You can customise the type of massage you receive, the music or ambience, and the quality and intensity of touch offered by the therapist, all to fit your shared needs and preferences. 

A couples massage can be done in any style you like, and each one offers its own unique benefits. For a gentle massage to promote relaxation, couples Swedish massage is ideal. And for something more robust, deep tissue massage is wonderful for releasing tension deep within the muscles. (I offer Lomi Lomi Massage Style Massage which is a form of Hawaiian massage.  It is an extremely relaxing style of massage and very easy to learn).

Hot stone massage uses warmth and gentle pressure of hot stones to foster relaxation and loosen muscle tension. Thai massage is great for active couples, as it uses stretching and pressure points to open the body up. 

Aromatherapy massage incorporates the soothing and stimulating effects of essential oils into the massage experience, and blends well with other forms of massage. Fusion massages incorporate elements of different styles to offer a unique and personalised massage experience. 

Another great option is couples Bondassage. This can spice things up and bring a sensual edge into the shared experience. Bondassage is a combination of light bondage and sensual massage. It’s a wonderful way to bring some kink into the connection and get a light introduction to the world of BDSM. 

When considering a couples massage, think about what you want out of it, in terms of relaxation, health, and restoration needs, the style and intensity of pressure and motion, and the mood or emotions that you’d like to share. There’s no wrong way to do it, and it can be a lot of fun to explore different styles together, sharing the experience and deepening your bond with your partner. 

The Science Behind Couples Massage 

Massage is great for relationship. In fact, couples who get regular massages tend to report higher relationship satisfaction. 

The physical benefits of massage are well-documented. Massage improves circulation and reduces muscle tension. And since the mind and body are so deeply interconnected, when the body relaxes, the mind stills and becomes more peaceful. 

And, along wth the mental and physical benefits, it offers a host of emotional benefits, from improved mood and sense of wellbeing to stronger bonding and improved intimacy. 

On a physiological level, massage works by stimulating the parasympathetic nervous system. This is the opposite of the fight-or-flight system. It signals the body to relax and return to balance. That means reducing heart rate, lowering blood pressure, and releasing muscle tension. The overall effect calms the nervous system and supports emotional regulation. 

Massage has a powerful influence on several hormones and neurotransmitters, each of which has distinct effects on the body and mind. One of the big ones is cortisol, a hormone that influences mood and health. Cortisol levels rise when we are stressed. And they drop significantly in response to massage therapy. This is one way that massage helps to release stress, alleviate tension, and improve mood. 

Massage and other forms of touch therapy also stimulate the release of endorphins, serotonin, and dopamine. Endorphins are natural painkillers that enhance mood and sense of wellbeing, and serotonin and dopamine are neurotransmitters associated with desire and elevated mood. And when we feel better, happier, and more relaxed, relationships run more smoothly. 

The biggie is oxytocin, the “love hormone”. Whenever we receive touch, especially intentional touch, oxytocin is released. It helps us to feel more secure, more emotionally attuned. Oxytocin plays a key role in establishing feelings of trust, emotional safety, and connection between partners. 

Oxytocin could be called the hormone of intimacy. It promotes emotional bonding by helping us to feel better and more at ease. More trusting, calmer, and more open to real connection. 

Studies show that massage is a remarkably effective natural stimulus for oxytocin release. Couples massage triggers oxytocin release in both partners at the same time. This leads to stronger bonds and a deepening of trust between partners. It fosters a shared sense of calm and openness, setting the stage for deeper empathy, more patient communication, and a bond built on mutual trust and ease. 

One of the unique benefits of couples massage comes from the human tendency to synchronise when sharing an experience. Shared touch can synchronise the nervous systems of partners on a subconscious level. It gets you and your partner on the same page, synchronised in breathing, heart rate, and brain activity. This heightens empathy and deepens emotional attunement between partners. 

In short, couples massages are excellent for the relationship, and it’s backed by science. Massage triggers loads of physiological effects that make us feel better. And when we feel better together, the connection strengthens. 

Benefits of Couples Massage 

Massage is amazing because it works on so many levels. Through the art of touch, stress is released, the mind is calmed, and the heart is eased. 

Stress is one of the biggest culprits in health challenges and relationship issues, and in the modern world, it’s all too easy to get stressed. There are so many demands on our time, and we tend to pile up emotional strain along the way. When the stress builds up, we become distant from one another, less present, and less fun to be around. 

Relaxation eases stress, and shared relaxation allows couples to take a moment of quiet, to let go of the stresses of the day, and just come back to balance. And that alone is enough to make a couples massage well worth sharing with your partner, but it’s just the beginning. 

On a physical level, massage reduces muscle stiffness, relieves tension, improves circulation, and boosts the immune response. It also improves flexibility and quality of sleep. 

Emotionally, massage reduces stress and anxiety, and it enhances feelings of trust and closeness. And the shared experience of couples massage creates a safe space for vulnerability, for emotional walls to come down, allowing couples to feel more seen, more heard, and more supported. 

Couples massage is an ideal way to improve intimacy in the relationship. It offers a mutual stress reduction, which brings more satisfaction in our relationships. And it offers shared calm moments, which help to improve emotional adaptability in the connection. 

Reduced stress means feeling more at ease and better able to communicate clearly, honestly, and effectively. Boosted oxytocin means stronger empathy and more natural closeness. And synchronised nervous systems mean better communication even without words, being more in tune with one another. 

Whether you are in a fresh relationship or a long-term partnership, couples massage is a gentle, healthy, and powerful way to reconnect. It’s a little break from the hustle and bustle of the routine, and a moment to recenter, to get present, connected, and in tune with one another. 

Couples Bondassage

The couples who explore and play together, stay together! 

Many couples fall into the routine of everyday life and often forget to pay attention to the sexual part of the relationship. This is such an important part of the relationship, but it’s so often forgotten and not given enough nourishment.. 

So what actually is Bondassage? 

Bondassage is a kinky sensual massage designed as the perfect introduction to the world of BDSM. It allows the receiver to experience all the thrills of light and sensual BDSM play without the harshness of BDSM in its more traditional form. Combining massage techniques with breath and energy work, body percussion and sensual flogging, Bondassage is the ultimate experience in letting go. 

And, it’s even more fun when you share it with your partner. It’s a beautiful way to combine the benefits of couples massage with the liberation and intimacy that comes from exploring your sensual side together. Couples Bondassage is an amazing journey that will lead you to a more pleasurable, fulfilling and connected relationship. 

So, if you’d like to increase desire and create stronger physical, emotional and mental connection with your partner, allow me to be your guide on a journey of discovery into the world of light BDSM and sensory play techniques in a safe, accepting and experiential space. 

In love and light,

T 

Hello, folks! 

In the hustle and bustle of the modern world, it’s easy to collect up tension, to get stuck in our heads and disconnected from our bodies. Stress builds up, and our nervous systems get thrown out of whack, taking a toll on every area of our lives. 

Tantric massage is an amazing way to reset your nervous system, deepen into the senses, and even enhance our capacity for true intimacy. It offers relaxation and relief from both physical and emotional tension. 

More than that, tantric massages can help us to reconnect with ourselves. To breathe, open into the sensual experience, and bring the heart, and body into harmony. 

Those who have received tantra massage firsthand know exactly what it has to offer. But for beginners, for those who haven’t yet experienced it, this tantra massage guide will cover expectations and preparations for your first tantra massage. 

What is Tantra Massage? 

Massage is deeply healing in itself. It draws upon the power of touch to release tension and ease stress out of the body. It’s natural therapy that deserves a place in everyone’s self-care regimen. 

Tantra massage takes this to the next level. In addition to physical touch, tantra massage works directly with the subtle energies of the body. The subtle energy directs the function of the whole being, so this kind of work can offer deep and transformative healing, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. 

The focus of tantra massage is to awaken the sexual energy and move it freely throughout the entire body. In the process, it releases tension, clears energetic blocks, and allows us to reconnect with our natural baseline of sensual pleasure. 

Tantra is, at its core, a practice of cultivating consciousness through the body. When we allow energy to flow freely through the body, we also awaken to our awareness of our whole being. As we become more relaxed and the energy flows more freely through us, the senses open up, and we begin feeling and seeing things that we had been too focused to take in before. The whole being begins to come together and operate as a unit, instead of many competing tunes and rhythms. 

Tantra massage is a sensual journey that begins with touch and honours our sexual nature. It’s an intentional experience that realigns our beings from outside in with touch, and from inside out with energy. It invites presence and helps us to surrender, teaching us to be completely here and now, in the body and the heart. 

One important feature of the tantra massage is that it is a full-body experience. This includes the genitals. The purpose of the massage is to raise sexual energy and circulate it throughout the body. 

The real magic comes when we can learn to relax completely, to let the energy build to greater and greater intensity, awakening every part of our body and being. As you learn to embody this energy and awareness, you will become more vital and radiant, and life will begin to open up on every level. 

Tantra Massage Benefits 

Tantra massage is a holistic healing experience that touches every part of the being: physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual. It helps to cultivate mindfulness, deepen relaxation, and soften into connection. 

Here are just a few of the benefits you receive from tantric bodywork: 

• Relieves stress and deepens relaxation
• Increases sensitivity and enhances sensuality
• Improves wellbeing, bringing higher levels of happiness and satisfaction in daily life
• Teaches men greater orgasm control and even multiple orgasms 
• Boosts vitality and youthfulness
• Increases our capacity for love, trust, surrender and intimacy
• Enhances libido and boosts sexual desire
• Supports physical healing through reflexology points in the genitals

Tantra Massage Expectations 

One of the key goals of tantra is to get out of the head and into the body. And one way to do this is to drop expectations and get present, to surrender and go with the flow. 

That said, if you’re considering your first tantra massage, it helps to know at least a bit of what to expect. 

In some ways, receiving a tantra massage is similar to receiving other forms of massage. You’ll be offered a comfortable space where you can remove your clothing, lie on a massage table, and receive therapeutic touch. 

One key difference is that the therapist will first connect deeply with their own energy, and then synchronise with yours. You’ll be guided to relax and breathe deeply and evenly, and the therapist will match their breath to yours, bringing your bodies into resonance. 

As the massage progresses, energy is delivered to the body alongside touch. This opens and activates the energy centres, offering a rush of warmth and sensitivity that builds and amplifies, spreading throughout the entire body. 

The entire experience is a practice in presence, keeping with the breath and the senses. Even when it progresses to the genitals and the energy becomes sexual, the key is to remain relaxed, present, and in complete surrender to the sensation. Keep breathing, and allow the energy to flow through the entire body, rather than being focused only on the genitals. This is a deeply healing aspect of the experience, helping us to reconnect with our sensual and sexual nature. 

Preparing for Your First Tantra Massage 

Preparing for your first tantra massage is pretty simple. The first step is to find a skilled and experienced therapist. 

Once you have found the right practitioner for you, the next step is to set intentions, to be clear about what you would like to work on.  And finally, to get the most out of the experience, it helps to practice relaxation and breathing practices before the session. 

First, remember that the goal is presence. A moment fully alive, awake in the body. Really feeling what is happening right now. And that means surrender, relaxing, and allowing the energy and sensation to flow without obstruction. 

Choose a reputable and experienced therapist 

One of the most important aspects of preparing for your first tantra massage is to find a fully trained, highly experienced, and deeply reputable practitioner. 

It’s important that the therapist is trained specifically in tantra massage, as this is a unique form of touch and energy that requires its own form of training. It’s best if the therapist has many hours of massage experience under their belt. And you’ll want a very clean energy, with clear professional lines. 

The best way to choose a practitioner is to speak to them. Find out about their training, how long they have been offering these services, and how they approach the work both practically and spiritually. 

The goal is to find a practitioner that makes you feel safe, comfortable, and well-held. If their experience and training is good, and if you feel safe and held in interaction with them, then you’ve found a practitioner that resonates with you. 

Set Clear Intentions 

Setting intentions is one of the most important keys to any successful endeavour. When we are clear about what we want, what our goals are, and how we are approaching them, then things progress much more smoothly. 

So, when setting intentions for your first tantra massage, consider what you would most like to get from the experience. You might have come to tantra massage while seeking deeper relaxation, physical healing, emotional breakthrough, or a deepening of your capacity for presence. 

When we set our intentions, we dedicate the activity to those intentions, and the effects become more profound. So, if you approach tantra massage with a clear intention of physical healing, then your body and mind calibrate to receive this healing from the session. 

Whatever your intentions, share these with the therapist. If you have any boundaries or things that you don’t want in the massage, share these as well. This ensures that both giver and receiver are on the same page, making a smoother and more focused experience. 

Final Words 

Tantra is one of the most deeply transformative and healing practices around. It works on every level of the being to provide relaxation, healing, and presence. And regular tantra massage can help you to step into new depths of emotional and sexual freedom. 

When preparing for your first session, get clear about why you would like this experience and practice getting present and in the body with breath and relaxation. Make sure you vet the practitioner well and feel comfortable with them before you choose them for your session. 

And remember, the massage is just the first step. As you move through the day, continue to cultivate the same presence and connection with the body that you have experienced in the session. 

This transforms a massage into a deep and powerful experience that improves every aspect of your life. 

Love and light, folks! 

Taranga

Tantra is a spiritual science that originated in India around 600 C.E. While often associated with sex, Tantra is about more than just intimacy. It’s a comprehensive system for balancing the mind, body, emotions, and energy. 

Tantric energy work operates at a holistic level by working with the body’s subtle energy systems. The core focus of a tantric healing session is to use energy flow to align the mind and body of the receiver. 

Tantric massage techniques help to reduce pain, relieve anxiety, balance emotions, evoke ecstatic states, and heal diseases by addressing the energetic misalignments that cause them. But these practices have been met with skepticism because, until recently, there has been little scientific research into how most energetic practices work. 

But we’re catching up! Modern neuroscience, psychology, and medical research have recently begun to confirm that practices like breathwork, meditation, chakra activation, and mindfulness produce measurable changes in the human body and brain. 

Understanding Energy in Tantra 

In the context of Tantra, energy is often referred to as prana, kundalini or life force. This vital energy permeates all living beings and the universe itself. 

According to Tantric philosophy, our bodies are intricate systems of energy channels known as nadis. These nadis intersect to form energy centres, swirling hubs of energy known as chakras. When the nadis are clear and the chakras are balanced, prana flows freely. This supports health and offers access to heightened states of consciousness. 

Blockages or imbalances in this energy flow can lead to physical, emotional, and spiritual disease. Tantric practices focus on removing these blockages and harmonising energy flow for optimal health and well-being. 

What is Tantric Healing? 

Tantric healing works from within by unlocking the stuck or repressed energies associated with emotional trauma or physical ailments. These practices help to heal chronic pain and emotional distress by realigning the body and clearing energetic blockages, activating our natural healing potential. 

Tantric energy healing focuses on creating an energetic flow in the receiver’s body and balancing the receiver’s energy centres. This is done primarily on an energetic level, but can also include touch, breathwork, and meditation. 

Tantric energy healing can be done with or without physical contact. The therapist channels energy to the receiver, helping to balance and integrate the flow of prana through their body. 

This process helps release energy blockages, promotes deep relaxation, and activates kundalini, the sexual energy resting at the base of the spine. Kundalini activation can lead to heightened states of consciousness and facilitate emotional, physical, and spiritual healing. 

In many cases, people who receive tantra healing can achieve an orgasmic state, also known as an energy orgasm or spiritual orgasm. An energy orgasm becomes possible when sexual energy flows freely throughout your entire body. 

An energy orgasm is a bit different from a regular orgasm. It’s a super-sensory spiritual experience that ripples through the entire being. It involves complete surrender to the energy flowing through us, and offers a deeper sense of connection with body, mind, and spirit. 

How Does Tantric Healing Work? 

A tantric massage session begins with the creation of a calm, sacred space where the energetic healer can focus on channeling energy to the recipient. Tantric healers, with the aid of touch, breath, and intention, connect deeply with the receiver and send energy into their body and being. 

In mastering tantric techniques, the healer becomes more aware of their subtle energies and learns how to transfer their energy to others. This allows them to work on the receiver on an energetic level, aligning the higher energy bodies so that the energetic work steps down into physical healing and vitality. 

What does Science Say about Tantric Healing? 

Since tantric healing operates on an energetic level rather than a physical one, and since these subtle energies are challenging to measure and record, the science behind energy flow has only recently begun to be explored. 

However, with recent advances in brain imaging, we’ve been able to take a closer look at the impact of tantric healing on the brain and body. One breakthrough set of experiments was conducted in 2016 by the renowned tantric healer Somananda in collaboration with the Technical University of Denmark and Aalborg University Hospital. 

This exploration involved three experiments. The first study used an infrared camera to view the effects of tantric healing techniques on the body temperature of both the healer and receiver. The second used an EEG to monitor brain activity in response to tantric healing. And the third used an MRI to view brain activity in response to these same techniques. 

The results were quite clear. In the first test, notable increases in body heat were observed in the receiver in response to the tantric healer, and these same results did not occur when the physical techniques were copied by an individual untrained in energy work. 

The second test showed a 40% activation of the receiver’s PNS, or parasympathetic nervous system. The parasympathetic nervous system is associated with relaxation. It is part of the autonomic nervous system, which regulates unconscious actions like breathing, metabolism, and digestion. This means that tantric healing techniques activate a function that is normally outside of conscious control. 

Finally, the MRI test revealed significant changes in the receiver’s brain activity in response to tantric healing. Again, the changes were most visible in areas of the brain associated with relaxation and heightened awareness. With both this test and the EEG test, these shifts in brain activity were reduced when the session was taken over by an untrained individual who performed the same physical techniques. 

What do these Tests Actually Tell Us? 

From these experiments, we can see that tantric healing offers a deep sense of relaxation, heightens sensual awareness, and increases circulation (increased body heat). These techniques create a measurable change in the brain activity associated with the parasympathetic nervous system, promoting relaxation and rebalancing the body. 

The parasympathetic nervous system is the opposite of the sympathetic nervous system, which puts us in fight-or-flight mode. The sympathetic nervous system prepares the body and mind for rapid, high-energy activity, which is amazing! But once we have successfully escaped the predator, the body needs to slow down and rebalance. That’s where the parasympathetic nervous system comes in. 

The parasympathetic nervous system directs blood to the extremities, lowering heart rate and blood pressure. Increased circulation means that the cells and tissues receive more blood flow, allowing them to heal more quickly. This warms the body and heightens sensation, promoting relaxation, metabolism, and cellular healing. 

Tantra massage benefits us by stimulating our parasympathetic nervous system, which is linked to relaxation, sexual arousal, and heightened awareness. The more relaxed we are, the easier it is to become sensual and aroused, and the more present we become to our sensations and feelings. 

By working with the energy flow through the body, the healer can speak directly to the receiver’s nervous system and invite the body to relax, rebalance, and release tension. Tantric massage techniques awaken the sexual centres, releasing a flow of prana, and then lift this energy flow upwards throughout the higher energy centres. 

Tantra Massage Benefits

When it comes to tantra massage benefits, Somananda’s tests are just the tip of the iceberg. We’ve already covered the activation of the PNS. This increases vagal tone, which supports emotional balance and digestive health. In scientific terms, tantric techniques have a profound impact on the nervous system, brain chemistry, hormonal balance, and even brain structure. And, in more esoteric terms, tantra awakens the sexual centres, promoting energy flow throughout the body and being. 

In terms of brain activity, tantric mindfulness practices increase synchronisation between the right and left hemispheres. They increase activity in the anterior cingulate cortex, which improves concentration and awareness. They also reduce stress by calming the amygdala and linking the limbic system to the prefrontal cortex, offering stronger emotional balance. These techniques help to link and integrate the many parts of our being into a smoothly functioning whole. 

Tantric massage techniques stimulate both gamma and theta brainwaves. These brainwaves are associated with heightened awareness, creativity, deep relaxation, and improved learning ability. They also increase levels of key neurotransmitters, like serotonin, dopamine, oxytocin, and GABA. This leads to greater happiness, stronger motivation and focus, stronger bonding and improved relationships, and a reduction in feelings of anxiety. 

The breathwork and meditation aspect of tantric massage benefits hormonal balance, helping to regulate levels of cortisol, endorphins, melatonin, estrogen, and testosterone. Lower cortisol means lower stress. And when the endorphins are flowing freely, we feel good and happy. Melatonin is important for healthy sleep, and the sex hormones are fundamental for energy levels, sexual desire, and so much more. 

Because the mind, body, and emotions are closely linked, tantric massage promotes emotional healing. Tantric practices release emotions that have been stored in muscle tension. The default mode network in the brain, associated with overthinking and negative self-talk activates the insula, the emotional awareness hub of the brain. This means that regular tantric massage can relieve anxiety, offer resilience against depression, and even reduce emotional distress. 

All of the beautiful biochemical and neurological benefits of tantric massage begin with energy flow. In the physical body, this is expressed in many ways. With breath comes increased circulation, increased oxygen, and stronger cellular health. With strong, clear nadis and chakras, the nervous system is balanced. With active, healthy energy flow, the mind, body, and spirit can operate as an integrated whole. 

Final Thoughts 

It’s beautiful to see that we are finally confirming with modern research what tantric practitioners have known for more than a millennium. 

Our vital energy guides and informs the entire being, linking mind, body, and emotions together. With the use of breath and meditation, we can promote the free and balanced flow of energy through the body. And this actually reshapes our brains and rebalances our nervous systems. 

By listening to our energy and flowing with it, we cultivate consciousness and presence. And by feeling and releasing our emotions, we release energetic blockages and allow the body to return to balance. 

Tantric practices improve physical vitality, emotional health, and mental balance. They do this primarily through the movement of energy. And this energy then steps down through the various layers of our being, working through the mind, heart, and body, realigning every aspect of our being. And, regular tantric massages are a great way to tap into these benefits for yourself! 

Thank you for sharing this deep dive with me, folks! Love and light, 

In gratitude 

Taranga

Beyond Relaxation 

The modern world has gotten so busy and fast-paced. Attention spans are becoming shorter, and we become more accustomed to instant gratification. And, all too often, this leads us to rush past intimacy and forgo real connection. It’s all too easy to get stuck in our heads and lose connection with our bodies, hearts, and one another. 

Tantra massage benefits us in several ways, helping us to slow down, breathe deeply, and reconnect with the power of touch. It’s more than just a sensual experience. Tantra massage is a sacred ritual that offers stress relief and energy healing. And that’s just the beginning. Tantra, in all its forms, makes the body a gateway to higher awareness. 

Whether you’re seeking healing, pleasure, or spiritual awakening, tantra massage honours both the physical and the divine. It’s a beautiful way to deepen relaxation, improve intimacy, strengthen your connection with your body, and boost well-being on every level. 

What is Tantra? 

Tantra has been gaining popularity in the Western world over the last couple of decades. However, it’s not a modern phenomenon. It’s a tradition that originated in India and is rooted in yogic philosophy. And, through its various practices, tantra offers powerful benefits for stress relief, energy healing, conscious relating, and personal growth. 

Tantra originates in a series of scriptures that date back to the 7th Century AD. The word tantra could be translated as loom, warp, or weave. This metaphor of weaving implies the “interweaving of traditions and teachings as threads” into a text, technique, or practice. Tantra is a personal practice of weaving together the elements of our being, helping us to heal, integrate, and deepen our connection with the world. 

Traditionally, the tantric path employs mantras, yoga, meditation, and ritual. These days, tantra is most closely associated with sexuality, but that’s just the tip of the iceberg. Although it emphasises the body and the senses, tantra transcends physical intimacy and offers a holistic approach to align body, mind, and spirit. At its core, tantra is a practice of inner healing and self-integration, guiding us to embodiment, presence, and emotional freedom. 

What Is Tantric Massage? 

So, what exactly is a tantric massage? How is tantra related to massage, and what benefits are offered by this unique form of touch? 

All massages relax the body, and this in itself offers numerous benefits for physical, mental, and emotional health. Tantra massage takes it a bit further, incorporating energy healing and conscious connection to create a transformative experience that goes beyond stress relief. 

Tantric massage is a full-body massage that works on both the physical and energetic levels. Through the use of conscious touch, it works on the energy centres of the body, promoting a free flow of vital energy through the being. And, when your energy flows freely, you feel healthy, happy, and clear. 

Tantra massage eases the receiver into a deeply relaxed state, building up waves of energy within the body. The role of the masseuse is to connect deeply to the receiver and offer touch and energy in tune with their needs. Done correctly, tantric massage offers the ultimate release, helping to overcome blockages, open the heart, and connect you deeply with your sensual nature. 

Tantra Massage Benefits 

Now, the list of benefits from tantra massage is pretty exhaustive. It can help to align and heal every aspect of life, opening the door to more vitality, joy, and connection. 

Here’s a quick overview of Tantra Massage Benefits: 

●  Offers stress relief

●  Eases pain

●  Aids sleep and promotes relaxation

●  Builds trust with your partner

●  Encourages deeper intimacy

●  Improves sexual stamina and Increases desire

●  Boosts the immune system

●  Regulates the nervous system

●  Heals emotional blockages

●  Offers energy healing

●  Helps you to love and accept yourself and your body

●  Allows you to explore your desires and connect more deeply with your sensual nature 

Tantra is a practice of getting more present, feeling our feelings, and getting in tune with the wisdom of our body. It’s a deeply personal path, customised to our unique experience and needs. Many threads of practice, woven together to help us embrace the journey and create a life that is plentiful, happy, healthy, and rich in connection. 

Tantric massage is one thread in the weave. It offers a holistic approach to wellness that balances physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being. 

Here’s an in-depth look at the key benefits: 

1. Deepens Mindfulness 

One of the greatest benefits of tantric massage, and of all tantric practices, is the cultivation of mindfulness. Mindfulness could also be described as presence. It is a practice of being right here, right now, aware of the body, the emotions, and the subtle flow of energy through our being. 

Tantric massage helps us to become attuned to our body, aware of each sensation, and conscious of each breath. This pulls us into presence, helping to release anxiety, stress, and distraction, improve concentration, and become firmly rooted in the present moment. And this, in turn, opens the door for a deeper and richer experience of life, in tune with our bodies and our connection with ourselves and the world. 

In the process of becoming more present, we also deepen self-awareness. We begin to see ourselves more clearly, becoming more aware of our thoughts, emotions, our actions, habits, and expectations. With greater self-awareness, we are forced to confront ourselves, acknowledge our limiting beliefs, and reclaim our power. Because of this, self-awareness is the first and most important step to crafting an intentional life that we love to live. 

2. Improves Intimacy and Relationships 

One of the benefits that makes the tantric approach stand out is its emphasis on relationship and true intimacy. When we slow down, tune in to our body and heart, and become present in our relating, we build stronger emotional bonds. This allows us to drop out of the head and into the heart, to open up to see the other and allow ourselves to be seen. By meeting and making peace with our vulnerabilities, we build trust and open the door for healthy, authentic intimacy. 

When we are present, authentic, and heart-centred, relationships transform for the better. Tantra massage helps you to connect with yourself on deeper levels, accepting your body, making peace with your feelings, and dropping some of the walls that interfere with conscious connection. This leads to more open communication, vulnerability, and emotional honesty. It helps us to accept ourselves and relate more authentically with others, inviting all relationships in our lives to become deeper and richer. This builds more compassion and empathy, opening the door for emotional healing, deeper intimacy, and stronger relationships. 

3. Boosts Self-Esteem 

Tantric massage is a beautiful way to nurture both mind and body. And one of the benefits of this is improved self-esteem. As we learn to accept ourselves our our bodies, we feel more comfortable and confident. And, as we become more attuned to our body and emotions, we build a stronger understanding of our needs and desires, both physically and emotionally. 

At its core, tantra is a path of embracing wholeness. Unlike paths which turn away from the material world in order to cultivate spiritual awareness, tantra recognises that every aspect of our journey is spiritual, and every part of ourselves and the world is perfect, even in imperfection. 

This allows us to weave together the physical, emotional, mental, and energetic threads of our being, coming to a place of deep acceptance and stepping into more authentic expression. We learn to see ourselves without judgment and embrace every aspect of our journey. 

The result is self-integration, embodiment, and deep personal growth. In confronting our shadows and cultivating our light, we begin to love every aspect of ourselves and our experience, and the entire world opens up in ways we never imagined. 

4. Energy Healing and Rebalancing 

Tantric massage works with our energy body, helping to unblock energy pathways, restore balance, and promote vitality. In the tantric perspective, energy centres known as chakras play a crucial role in overall well-being and spiritual health. Each chakra corresponds to specific physical, emotional, and spiritual aspects of our being. 

Blocked or stagnant energy causes challenges that range from physical fatigue and illness to emotional blockage, tension, and stress. Tantric massage blends physical touch and energy healing to restore the healthy flow of energy and promote balance. The result is increased vitality, emotional stability, mental clarity, and spiritual insight. This enhances productivity, focus, and motivation in daily life. It also encourages spiritual growth by creating harmony within oneself and cultivating a deep sense of connection with oneself and the world. 

Tantra therapy is also linked to the activation of kundalini, the energy that lies dormant at the base of the spine. Awakening this energy can deepen spiritual awareness and evoke personal transformation. 

5. Boosts Sex Drive and Sensuality 

Now, tantra is about much more than just sex. That said, in improving your connection with yourself and your body, tantra significantly improves awareness of your sexual energy, making your sex life more fulfilling and satisfying. 

As we become more aware of our needs, desires, and boundaries, we learn to express ourselves more openly, building intimacy and trust and forming a strong foundation for healthy sexuality. And, as we become more attuned to our body, we heighten awareness of breath and sensation, becoming more present to the sensual experience. 

With presence, we move past performance and learn to move with the sexual energy flowing through us, instead of trying to control it or approaching it from a mental space. This makes sex even more amazing. 

6. Helps to Cultivate Consciousness 

Tantra is a body-centred path to inner freedom. By attuning to the breath, the senses, and the present moment, we learn to drop attachments and limiting beliefs, releasing suffering and making space for joy. This offers a path of liberation, a means to reclaim our power and begin crafting a life of intention, aligned with our needs, values, and desires. 

In embracing all aspects of our experience, we recognise the sacred in the mundane. Each moment becomes a tapestry of interconnection and sensual blessing, which inspires a sense of unity and reframes our relationship with the world. 

The key to the tantric path is radical acceptance. This is a process of learning to accept and make peace with every single aspect of ourselves and our lives. This allows us to reflect and be honest with ourselves, to take accountability, overcome social conditioning, and step into an authentic life, anchored in joy and lived on our own terms. 

The Tantric Journey

The deepest journey of life is the cultivation of consciousness. But what does that look like? 

It looks like presence. Like being here, in this moment, in tune with your body, feeling your feelings. Showing up to make the most of this blessing of experience. Learning to feel amazing in your body and your life. And that is exactly what tantra is all about. 

A huge part of connecting with ourselves is connecting with others. We are social creatures. Our connections with others form the emotional fabric of our experience. When we can accept ourselves, we can open up and allow others to see us. And we can be present enough to see others more deeply. This helps us to slow down and build real intimacy. 

Tantra offers a rich and varied toolkit to support us on this journey. A roadmap to connecting with our bodies, feeling our energy, and embracing every aspect of our lives. Each tool helps us to deepen self-awareness, improve connection, and truly make peace with our lives. 

Tantric massage is one of these tools. It’s a holistic approach to wellness that creates physical ease and triggers emotional release. And it offers benefits across the board, from physical and emotional healing to enhancing mindfulness and improving relationships. 

In love and light,

Taranga 

The 8 Best Essential Oils for Sensual Massage

When it comes to setting the mood, it’s about engaging all five senses: Soothing lighting and color, sensual sensations, gentle sounds, luscious tastes, and delightful scents.

Each of these is important. But, when it comes to sensual massage or bedroom play, the most important is scent. Smell works on us in more ways than one. It both influences the body directly and works on us through the subconscious.

And, one of the best tools for working with scent is essential oils. Each essential oil, in addition to the aroma, has a unique effect on mind and body. Some are good for releasing stress, others for bringing a feeling of arousal, others can improve skin health. And it just goes on from there.

So, in this article, I’ll share some of the best essential oils for relieving stress, promoting arousal, and making your sensual time as beautiful as it can be.

But first, let’s take a closer look at what essential oils are all about:

What are Essential Oils?

Essential oils are highly concentrated extracts of plants. They are used in aromatherapy and offer several benefits to support health and well-being. And, if you don’t already have a personal collection of essential oils, you’ll want one by the end of this article.

First off, they smell amazing and last longer than most perfumes on the market. Plus, essential oils are a scientifically proven, easy, and affordable way to reduce stress, increase arousal, and help you heal from the inside.

Here are just a few of the benefits you can get from essential oils. They are known to:

●  Boost mood

●  Release stress and promote relaxation

●  Improve skin and hair quality

●  Relieve headaches

●  Reduce inflammation

●  Cleanse the aura

●  Revitalise the body and reenergise the mind

●  Promote mental clarity

●  And more…

In addition to this impressive list of benefits, essential oils are an easy and effective way to enhance the quality of your sex life. They act as natural aphrodisiacs, stimulating the sex drive, improving blood flow, and intensifying sexual pleasure.

Essential oils can even help with issues of low libido or sexual dysfunction. They help to restore. sexual desire and arousal by addressing the physical or emotional root issues. The right oils can. help your body to heal itself and reconnect with its natural sexuality.

So, if you want to spice up your sex life or improve your libido, essential oils are the way to go.  You can use them in sprays or diffusers, apply them onto your wrists, use them in massage oil blends, or even sprinkle a bit onto the bedding, and it will take your intimacy to the next level!

Best Essential Oils for Sensual Massage

Now, the best oils for a sensual massage are those that promote relaxation and arousal, as well as those that support sexual health and stimulate the libido. So, here are some of the best essential oils to set the mood, prepare the body, and tantalise the senses:

Rose oil for reducing stress and anxiety

No flower is more closely associated with love and romance than rose, and with good reason. Rose fragrance is soft and feminine, and has powerful aphrodisiac properties, opening the heart and soothing the body. And rose can be used in many ways: inhaled, applied to the skin, or used to create a soothing and sensual bath.

But rose isn’t just for romantics! Rose oil contains scents which promote blood flow to the reproductive system, improve mood, and generally support good sex. And in terms of health benefits, rose oil helps to eliminate bacteria, ease menstrual discomfort, heal wounds, relieve muscle spasms, and reduce anxiety.

It also boosts libido. Since rose oil is so good at decreasing anxiety and stress, it can help men to maintain an erection for longer. The more relaxed you are, the better you feel, and the easier it is for both mind and body to get into the mood and let it last.

It’s also great to know that rose oil can be made at home with nothing more than rose petals, oil, and a saucepan.

Jasmine oil for uplifting mood and boosting sensuality

If you’ve ever looked into essential oils for your love life, jasmine is likely the first one you came across. In addition to a delightful and seductive scent, it offers a host of other benefits to health and well-being.

Jasmine oil is wonderful because it helps to calm your nervous system. But that’s just the beginning.  It also contains potent antiseptic properties, can soothe an annoying cough, helps ease menopause-related symptoms, and contains sedative-related properties. To top it off, it balances out your emotions and your hormones and purifies the body of toxins.

Sexually, jasmine is the ultimate go-to. In addition to its stimulating and alluring aroma, Jasmine also boosts pheromone production, making you more sexually attractive! And it’s especially helpful for women, as jasmine oil has properties which boost mood, stimulate the endocrine system, and increase your sex drive.

So, whether you’re planning a hot night or a sensual massage, give jasmine a try and see where it takes you. You won’t regret it.

Sandalwood oil for increasing sexual desire

Sandalwood has a warm and delightfully woodsy aroma, making it one of the preferred scents for men. The scent alone makes it a perfect addition to any massage oil blend. But that’s just the beginning.

Sandalwood is also great for the skin. It has astringent, antiviral, and antiseptic properties that help to heal pimples and surface-level wounds. It also reduces stress and inflammation and promotes mental clarity.

Sandalwood is also well known for its aphrodisiac properties. Its aroma can help relax nervous tension and increase blood flow to the genitals, and it has been scientifically proven to boost psychological arousal. Because of these properties, sandalwood can also help relieve erectile dysfunction.

Sandalwood is ideal for massage oil or to place directly on the skin, so long as it has been diluted to 2% or less. And, as with all essential oils, quality matters.

Bergamot oil boosts energy

Bergamot oil comes from the bergamot orange, so it’s no surprise that it has a bit of a citrusy scent to it. It has numerous health benefits: lowering cholesterol levels, easing joint pain, and even reducing depression-related symptoms.

Bergamot oil is ideal for massage and for sensual times because it boosts mood and reenergizes both body and mind. And, in addition to offering more energy, it also improves your sleep. Good sleep means better mood, more energy, and a stronger libido.

Now, there are quite a few citrus oils, each with unique benefits: sweet orange, lemon, lime, grapefruit, and mandarin, to name a few. Grapefruit uplifts mood, aids weight loss, and evenmakes you seem younger. Lemon promotes mental clarity and concentration.  What all citrus oils have in common is that they increase circulation and stimulate blood flow.

For sensual purposes, steady blood flow throughout the body is a good thing. It can help to keep men’s erections strong, increase vaginal lubrication, and heighten arousal. So it’s an ideal addition to the sensual essential oil toolkit.

Vanilla oil for boosting oxytocin and dopamine levels

Four key neurotransmitters influence mood and emotional well-being. Dopamine creates feelings of excitement and mental pleasure. Oxytocin, nicknamed the “love hormone”, enhances feelings of bonding and connection. Serotonin brings feelings of happiness and contentment. And endorphins help to reduce pain and increase physical pleasure.

Vanilla oil helps to increase both your dopamine and oxytocin levels, boosting overall satisfaction and intensifying sexual pleasure. Vanilla oil also reduces muscle-related discomfort, lowers blood pressure, and can serve as an antidepressant.

All of these qualities come together to make vanilla oil ideal for sensual massage and sexy play.

Cinnamon oil to fight erectile dysfunction

Cinnamon is another great essential oil for sensual massage. As far as your overall health and well-being, it helps to decrease inflammation, reduce blood sugar levels, strengthen immunity, ward off infections, and detoxify the system.

When it comes to your libido, cinnamon oil is a winner for a few reasons. For one, it’s known to relieve erectile dysfunction. That alone makes it ideal for your sensual oil toolkit.

Cinnamon oil also has a naturally sweet flavour and warms the skin, making it an ideal sensual massage oil ingredient. And it increases blood flow throughout the body, which supports sexual function, boosts arousal, and increases feelings of pleasure. Remember to dilute well, as a little goes a long way.

Peppermint oil for intensifying orgasms

Peppermint oil is hands-down one of the best to have in your toolkit. It’s great for relieving headaches and easing joint pain, reducing muscle spasms, freshening breath, relieving itchy skin, and alleviating digestive issues.

Peppermint oil is also incredibly helpful for sex and sensuality. This is because it boosts circulation to every part of your body. The more blood flow, the more intense your orgasms will be. Plus, the menthol in peppermint oil offers a tingly sensation that can actually promote multiple orgasms.

As a final note, peppermint is quite strong and need only be used in small amounts to get the full benefits. A few drops in a carrier oil like jojoba, coconut, or sweet almond is all you need to make a delightfully cooling and tingling sensual massage oil.

Final Words

I hope you have enjoyed this brief foray into the world of essential oils.

And honestly, it was hard to choose these particular oils, because there are so many more that are great for sensual massage and offer other incredible benefits.

Here are a few notable mentions that you may wish to explore for your sensual time:

● Ylang Ylang

●  Vetiver

●  Neroli

●  Agarwood

● Damiana

●  Pumpkin and Lavender Blend

●  Patchouli

If you have other essential oils you love to use for your own sensual massages, feel free to

share in the comments. I’d love to add them to my toolkit!

Wishing you beautiful moments that delight the senses,

In gratitude Taranga

Hot Stones Therapy has traditionally been a method that combines both the inherent grace of stones with therapeutic healing powers.

This technique has deep roots in culture and uses smooth, heated stones to melt away your tension, soothe muscles, and create a deepening sense of relaxation and blissful calm.

Hot Stones go way beyond simple pleasing appeal.  This massage brings a deep sensual and healing dimension to your Hot Stone session.

THE BEAUTY OF HOT STONES

The stones used in this massage are made from Basalt which has a smooth texture and can retain heat extremely well.  The volcanic stones possess an inherent beauty, having rich dark hues and polished surfaces.

When using these stones in the massage they give a sense of luxury and tranquility.  As the stones glide over the body they establish a connection to Mother Earth promoting a sense of roundedness and a soothing of one’s mind.

THE SENSUAL ELEMENTS OF HOT STONES MASSAGE

Hot Stones Massage is considered to be the Rolls Royce of Massages. And I have to agree with that statement.  The soothing heat of the stones along with the gentle application of pressure allows the reciprient to foster an extremely calming atmosphere.  Adding aromatherapy oils may further enhance the sensory experience.  The warmth of the stones, the fragrances, and the tactile sensations culminate in a deep sense of relaxation and overall wellness.

FIVE BENEFITS OF HOT STONE THERAPY

Pain Relief and Muscle Relaxation

As the stones produce heat this penetrates deep into the muscles and this promotes relaxation and alleviates pain in the body.  This massage is extremely beneficial to anyone living with chronic pain and tension.  The heat of the stones helps to increase blood flow allowing for reduced inflammation which allows for healing.

Improved Circulation

When heat is applied to the body it can dilate blood vessels allowing improved circulation throughout the body, which ensures that oxygen and nutrients are delivered to organs and tissues that support overall health and vitality.  When you enhance the blood flow in the body it also aids in the removal of toxins and waste which is imperative for great overall health.

Stress Reduction and Mental Clarity.

When you combine the rhythmic flowing strokes and warmth of the stones, this helps to calm the nervous system in the body.  This in turn reduces your stress levels and promotes mental clarity and an overall sense of wellbeing. Regular Hot Stone massages are a mood booster which in turn gives a greater sense of balance in one’s daily life.

Enhanced Flexibility and Mobility

Hot Stone massage is fantastic for tight muscles and can significantly improve our flexibility and range of motion through the application of heat.  For people who are suffering from stiff joints or those recovering from injury, this massage is extremely beneficial.  Not only do you relax but you will increase your flexibility and mobility which in turn helps with better posture leading you to live a more active lifestyle.

Detoxification and Skin Health

As your body is encouraged to sweat during this massage it helps with the detoxifying effect that in turn can improve skin health leaving it glowing and more radiant.  When you combine massage and heat, this stimulates the lymphatic system, enabling the body’s natural detoxification process.

THE FULL BODY EXPERIENCE

Health is an all-over comprehensive approach when our body functions harmoniously and with homeostasis. Hot Stones massage allows for wellness as it addresses the needs of the entire body/mind system. Having a full body treatment ensures that the entire body receives attention promoting homeostasis, unlike localised treatments. This massage allows the therapist to move the stones freely over the whole body, inclusive of the spine, legs, palms, and feet to maximise the therapeutic effects.

Integrating Tantra into Hot Stone Massage

Rooted in Hindu and Buddhist Traditions Tantra brings together the connection of body, mind, and spirit.

Bringing Tantra into your Stones Massage session can elevate the experience into a deeply intimate and transformative spiritual journey.

The elements of tantra in a Hot Stones massage are mindful breathing, cultivating energy within the whole body, and a sense of deep connection.

Combining both the physical and sensory benefits of the stones allows for the Tantra side of healing to nature the entire being.

Allowing for the integration of both the physical and sensory (Hot Stones) with Tantra provides a complete healing experience for the recipients entire being.

The Role of Energy Flow

From the Tantra perspective, when you are healthy your energy (Chi, Prana) is able to flow freely throughout the whole body without any blockages or obstructions.

The body has meridian lines or nadis which the Prana/Chi energy flows through and when these channels are blocked they can lead to physical and emotional imbalances.

The combination of heat and pressure from the hot stones massage helps unblock these channels allowing your Prana/Chi energy to flow freely.

The stone’s warmth can help to release tensions and move stagnant energy around the body promoting a sense of wellbeing and vitality.

Mindful Breathing and Sensory Awareness

Tantra practices mindful breathing techniques to enhance awareness and deepen presence.

Combining breath with Hot Stone massage can significantly amplify the effects of the massage.

When you combine mindful breathing with the warmth of the Hot Stones, you become anchored in the present moment allowing for the release of tensions and this in turn heightens the senses.

When you incorporate conscious breath work into the session you allow for a deepened connection with the therapist and recipient which in turn allows the massage experience to become enhanced.

Cultivating Intimacy and Connection

The school of Tantra places very strong attention on intimacy and connection, not just for self but also for others.  These Tantric principles when brought into the massage promote both human connection and a deep sense of realignment in the body.

When a therapist touches the body with intention and mindfulness this can foster a deep sense of trust and safety allowing you to surrender to the whole experience.  Having a deep intimate connection between therapist and recipient can enhance the healing process, allowing for deep transformation and growth.

When the principles of Tantra are brought into the Hot Stones Massage, it creates a nurturing environment to support great healing and a rebalancing of both the body, mind, and spirit.

The Recap

The Roll Royce of massages, Hot Stones Massage combines sensuality, therapy, and beauty culminating in a luxuriousness not found in other massage techniques.  Using the smooth heated stones on the body with touch delivers profound physical and mental relaxation.

Hot Stones Massage has many clinical benefits such as reducing stress, alleviating pains within the body, and attaining a sense of equilibrium.  It also can just be a time for tranquility peace and relaxation.  Either way, this massage can offer a deeply satisfying and transformative experience.

And by adding Tantra to the therapy we elevate the practice even further creating a holistic approach to healing and nurturing the body, mind, and spirit.  With the combination of mindful breathing techniques, intimacy, and energy flow (Prana/Chi) we foster a profound sense of deep connection and wellbeing.

So do yourself a favour and book a Hot Stones Massage today and explore the benefits for yourself.  You will thank me later.

In gratitude Taranga