Tantra? What the hell is that?

The Meaning of Tantra

I’m sure you’ve seen the word tantra many times and maybe even done some research on your own surrounding its meaning. Tantra is about all life. In tantra, sex is the metaphor for learning presence, true embodiment, and full aliveness. Tantra is a path to learning ourselves and learning to really feel every moment in life.

Our feelings are powerful. Extremely powerful. When you don’t deal with your feelings, they linger around and pop back up whenever triggered. While there are several ways to block these feelings, one way to accomplish this is by distracting ourselves. Getting our minds going and dropping out of our bodies.

Try this. What does your pinky toe feel like? You probably haven’t really thought about how it feels until now. That’s because the mentioning of it is bringing it to your attention. There’s so much to feel within our bodies in any moment that if we are able to really be present to it, we wouldn’t have time to obsess or concoct stories for situations that don’t currently exist.

Accepting Our Feelings

Tantra is all about acceptance, on the deepest level you can imagine. It’s all about truly feeling everything. When we try to hold away feelings, we are rejecting them. In rejecting something within us, we split ourselves. We do not show our true selves. We create a conflict inside, and with that comes confusion. It blocks our energy and connection to the world. By accepting all of our feelings, we begin to feel free.

Acceptance is also the key to transformation. When we reject a part of ourselves, we split it away from the part connected with our will and identity. In order to truly live in bliss, we have to accept that hurt person inside. We have to accept every part of ourselves so we can be aligned.

Sex is one of the most profound and sensual experiences that a human being can have. This is why many correlate tantra with sex. Two people come together in an explosion of feeling, an inner urge. Their souls connecting and creating an experience that can’t be replicated. The mind can come in to try to control the situation, and shape it somehow.

The practice of tantra helps us to learn how to let go of the mind again and just follow the energy. This allows us to feel more than we’ve ever felt and enjoy the experience in the moment without a thought of anything else.

Practicing Tantra

Sex is a great way to teach tantra because the sensations across our skin and the rising energy in our body are so powerful and present. It helps us to learn to live in the moment. But you don’t stop there. Tantra teaches us to bring that same level of awareness into our body at all times. To make life a sensual experience. And by doing so, we hear when emotions emerge and learn to process them at that moment rather than burying them in the surface later. Learn how to interact with from a more realistic and fulfilling place.

Tantra is the pillar of many of my articles and teachings you’ll find on my website. I’ll explore this topic more and how it effects our lives in different ways in future articles. In closing, I want you to think about tantra and how you can implement it into your daily life. Need help? I’m available for sessions.

In gratitude


It’s beginning to feel a lot like Christmas.

It’s holiday season once again! Time to party with family and friends and celebrate the times we’ve shared through the year. Time to give thanks for both the blessings and the trials.

The last year has been massive! The natural world has been in crisis. Here in NSW we’ve seen flood after flood. We’ve seen almost unimaginable scenes of whole towns underwater and destroyed.

The human world is just as hectic. These are tough times, and a lot of people are hurting. Interest rates have risen eight times this year alone, and prices are rising across the board. Our economy is feeling the impact of a distant war and the pressure is still mounting.

During this holiday season I’m reminded of the importance of listening to the still, small voice within. The universe is always shifting, sending us down unfamiliar paths and priming us for our highest growth. One door closes and another opens.

One shift for me personally was that I’ve decided to let go of OnlyFans. In the end, the path did not feel right to me, but I’ve had a learning experience. It’s been a huge journey of discovery, and I’m so grateful to all of you who have supported me along the way.

On another note, I’ve done seven housesits over the year. I’ve been loving it, and it’s inspired me to consider going nomad on a permanent basis. Adventure time is calling! I want to cross the Nullarbor, and explore Perth, and generally put myself in the way of beauty. Soak up life’s treasures. I can almost hear Gandolf’s voice, “The world is not in your doilies, it’s out there!”

The message that keeps coming through for me this season is: Less is Best. We’re all a bit squeezed right now, but that doesn’t have to stop us from having a rich, joy-filled life and beautiful connections. Beautiful experiences.

There are so many little things that we can do that have a big impact on our lives, both saving money and improving our quality of life. We can purchase fewer presents, for one. Instead, we can share time with our friends and loved ones, or create things they might enjoy. Instead of going to huge parties or expensive outings, we could get in touch with ourselves by taking a walk along the beach. Or camping. Or house sitting.

Most of the things that make life worth living are free. And there are so many ways we can thrive in these strange and ever-changing times. We can show up for one another, to lighten the load and ease the journey. And we can show up for ourselves.

Having said that, I am still offering my services throughout the holiday season! There’s no better time for a relaxing massage to unwind and start the New Year off right. And nothing like a sensual massage to help release tensions and reboot. If you’d like support in these intense times, I’m here.

Have brilliant times this Christmas season, whatever you get up to!

In deep gratitude Taranga

Your Time

The early stages of a relationship can seem quite magical. You always want to be around your partner and your face lights up just from hearing their name. Everyone loves the beginning stages of a relationship, right? Unfortunately, somewhere along the way, tension starts to enter your blissful atmosphere.

We might start to become more irritable about things that didn’t bother us before. Things that you thought were cute and innocent about your partner may not seem as small anymore. Little by little, it becomes harder to stay in that space of euphoric connection that seemed inexhaustible in the beginning. But this doesn’t have to be the case.

The truth is that we all need personal time to get centered and clear. Of course, we enjoy our partner, but being underneath them all the time isn’t realistic or healthy. It’s important that we rest our minds, come back to balance, and be in the space where we can bring the best of ourselves into any interaction. I know it’s easy to forget the word “space” when we’re in a new and exciting relationship, but it’s imperative for a long-lasting connection.

When we spend time with others, we tune in to them energetically. Things become linked and we synch our vibrations. You begin to feel what they feel and those emotions can run through you. We create a different space and a separate connection than the one we have with ourselves. It can be fascinating to sync vibrations with others, but it can be overwhelming at times.

Enjoy Your Energy

By making time to ourselves early on in the relationship, we’re protecting our own energy and wants along with the desires of our partner. Even a walk alone or a ten-minute space of personal time can let us tune in to ourselves. Our focus comes back to the center and we begin to focus on our needs and not just the ones in our relationship. This is something your mind and body need. This is the time we take for ourselves to figure out what we desire in the moment.

Personal time is essential for a healthy and lasting relationship. The demands of life often keep us running like we’re in a rat race. From working, taking care of other responsibilities, and even tending to familial relationships, we’re always busy. With so many things claiming our urgent attention, a little alone time is always the last thing on the list of things to do. But that’s the remedy we need to center ourselves.

Having alone time is just as important as eating healthy and exercising. While we can survive without it, we’re not giving the best version of ourselves when we don’t have it. Without feeding that need for space, the lack starts to catch up with us and we aren’t ourselves. We become distracted and not pleasant to be around. Every aspect of our lives changes when we don’t center ourselves. Every aspect of our lives also changes when we do center ourselves.

Today I want you to take some time and center yourself. Take 10 minutes out of your day and spend it alone. Block everything else out. Feel your energy running through your body and tend to the parts that seem blocked off. By doing this you will strengthen your connection with not only your partner but with yourself as well.

In gratitude,


Mixing Tantra

Recently, I was asked if I’ve ever mixed Tantra and BDSM. While on the surface, it might seem like an unlikely pairing since Tantra is connected with spiritual sexuality, while BDSM is more about the kinky stuff, right? Sometimes things mix together better than you think.

First, things first. Tantra isn’t only about sex. It’s a practice of awareness of your body and your emotions. It’s about breathing, feeling, and being present in the moment. It’s about dropping every other thought from your mind and focusing on what’s going on at the current time. With Tantra, you fully let go.

Tantra is a lifelong practice and for good reason. This is something that takes consistency to master. I practice tantra when I’m walking, when I’m sitting, when I’m talking with a friend, and even when I’m lying in bed at night. I’m focusing on that moment and nothing else.

I also practice this in my BDSM and Bondassage sessions.

Attention to detail is key in a Bondassage session. There are several things I go over in sessions, but one is to make sure that the receiver is safely bound. Secure without being uncomfortable, nothing too tight, and making sure that they have some movement.

This sense of security and awareness has to be maintained throughout the entire session. Whether it’s Bondassage or any other form of BDSM play, the key to a phenomenal experience is being present in our actions. When someone receives a Bondassage session, they are in a deeply vulnerable space. They are trusting someone to do something. Trust here is essential.

In my sessions, I want the receiver to feel relaxed so I make sure their breathing is good and they are truly experiencing the moment. The receiver’s comfortability is most important to me.

Doing Bondassage right is an art. It’s a symphony of sensation, a conscious interaction with a living awareness. This is Tantra at its very core. Even when we get moving faster, it’s about being in the moment.

So moving forward, move in the moment and try not to think about other things. This means even dropping your mind in a sense. Remind yourself everyday to take care of your needs, breathing, and sensual desires. Try to be in the present and not think about anything else that can take away from the now.

In gratitude,


Couples Play

The couple that plays together, stays together. It’s no coincidence. The more fun you have with your partner, the closer your connection will become. One of the things that I enjoy best as a tantric therapist is the opportunity to work with couples, to help them to deepen their relationship and enhance their love lives. It’s been amazing to see before my very eyes a connection strengthen and become better than before.

With one-on-one sessions, couples expand their learning base, receiving firsthand knowledge of sensual erotic touch and body wisdom. Touch is the center of many of my teachings and there’s no better way to learn it than experiencing it for yourself. These sessions help you to understand how you like to be touched, to discover what feels good and how to tune into that feeling to make it even more delicious.

As you know, the main part of Tantra is learning to slow down and feel everything. You want to savor every part of the experience. These sessions teach you different skills regarding touch and how to implement them into your everyday lives.

Couples Massages

Couples massages allow you and your partner to reconnect in a profound and sensual way. It’s no secret that most of us fall into patterns and get extremely comfortable in our relationships. We use the same forms of touch again and again, and the spark begins to dim. With couples massage, partners learn new ways to touch. This brings new experiences and variety into the relationship.

Now, these sessions aren’t just for couples whose relationships have gotten a bit dull. Anyone can benefit from a couple’s massage to improve their intimacy and deepen their connection even when things are still exciting. No matter where you are in your relationship, new ideas regarding intimacy can bring important new elements to your union. Tantra helps you to explore touch and feeling in all of its forms while still keeping the passion alive.

If you’re wanting a one-on-one session or a couple’s massage with your partner, I’m available to assist in help strengthening your bond and adding more touch to your relationship. The journey to a new path of intimacy will be rewarding.

In Gratitude,


Kinks and Consent

I’m sure most of us have seen the 50 Shades of Grey Trilogy. While some who aren’t into BDSM think that’s really how things go in the lifestyle, many of us know differently. Let’s be honest, these movies get it wrong in many places. However, it has brought the subject of BDSM to the table. It has opened the door for everyone, regardless of their lifestyle to discuss something that many see as taboo. We’re just now beginning to move into a place where we can take an honest look at sexuality, desire, and consent.

Consent is extremely important to any bondage or sensory play. It might not seem like those of us in this lifestyle have many limits, but, when issues of pain and power come into play, the core of the situation is about safety and trust. So when getting with a partner, it’s important to discuss what you will and will not allow aka your limits.

BDSM and Limits

BDSM includes a wide range of different kinks or sensory play. From blindfolds to ropes, spanking to subtle touch, there’s a lot to be covered in this lifestyle. While it can be very exciting to explore all of this, the first step is to ask, are you ok with this? May I spank you? Would you like to be blindfolded? May I bind your wrists? All of these questions and more need to be asked before any play starts.

It’s important to understand that consent doesn’t stop with the first yes. So let’s say your partner has given you the ok for a spanking. Now you need to create a safe space to explore how far they would like to indulge. Asking questions like, “Would you like me to spank you like this?,” and “Are you ok with this many swats?” really brings the important conversation to the forefront and make exploring the kink easier.

Remember that intimate situations can sometimes bring anxious feelings and pressure. If you get a sense of hesitation, don’t push the kink. It’s important that you don’t pressure your partner to do something they aren’t comfortable with. Honour your lover’s boundaries and allow them to open up naturally.

BDSM Safe Word

Having a safe word in bondage play is a key component in any dominant/submissive relationship. A safe word is something that one would say when they want to immediately end the sexual play. Another great method is to use the traffic light system. Just like on the streets, green means keep going, yellow means slow down, and red means stop. Always listen and let your partner determine the pace and depth of the play.

Consent is the central component of all forms of intimacy. Trust is also important. Essentially, you give up your power and surrender to another in BDSM. With this, you open up to new feelings and experiences. You also open yourself up to healing.

If you’d like to know more about bondage, consent, or kink, feel free to reach out. I love to share my experiences and hear others in hopes of us both reaching deeper levels of intimacy.

Explore and let go by giving me a call.

In gratitude


The Healing Touch

I’m often amazed at how people transform once they touch, love, and enjoy themselves. We often take the human touch for granted and all the healthy things it can do for us. I read a study about how volunteers were brought in to gently stroke the skin of premature babies for 10 minutes a day, while another group of babies was left untouched. The stroked babies gained weight and strength faster and were released from the hospital earlier than the babies who weren’t touched. That shows us just how much touch can transform a life.

Unfortunately, many of us are not too receptive to such affection. When we often first meet someone, we give them a brief handshake or maybe a slight hug. It’s interesting that even though there are studies that prove touch is a great healer, we often shy away from it.
If we had more safe, acceptable ways to touch each other, there might be a lot less illness,

sadness, isolation, and violence in the world.

Many of us don’t realize that touching releases powerful endorphins and other feel-good chemicals that help to heal physical and emotional aches and pains, relieve tension and calm both mind and body. While some of us may think it’s best to have a drink of wine when we’re feeling emotionally drained, a simple touch can cure emotional wear and tear.

The Touching Exercise

While we can’t always experience another human’s touch, there are other ways to receive the same benefits.

Let’s try this out.

The key to this exercise is to touch yourself with a real sense of caring for yourself. You don’t want to just touch yourself because you feel you have to. Really feel the motions and put yourself first.

Start by gently massaging your own scalp. You’ll want to rub it with your fingertips all over, paying particular attention to the spots that are a little sore. Most of the time the temples are a focus point or the back of the head in that hollow where the skull meets the top of the spine.

Now tug at your hair gently or with more strength, and use the heel of your hand to rub and stimulate every part of your head. Believe it or not, we store an incredible amount of tension in our heads, so this can feel extremely relaxing. Enjoy the feeling and breathe in and out. Close your eyes if you desire.

Next, you’ll want to give your face a few strokes. Working from the centre of your forehead/middle of your nose/ lips outwards, then massage and squeeze your ears and press in at each side of your cheeks where your jawbone pivots.

Run your hands gently over the front of your entire body. Caressing it in a sense. You can have on a few clothes or naked, before using a towel to rub the entire backside of your body from head to toe.

Now the finishing touch. Give yourself a foot rub in any way that feels good for you, and finish by wrapping your arms around your own body and giving yourself a good hug!

How do you feel now? Hopefully, you’re feeling more energised and calmer. Maybe you feel like a new person who just got a great night’s rest. This is a simple exercise you can do if you’re feeling the need to be touched, but no one is around to assist.

I’m also available for sessions should you need something more extensive.

In gratitude,


The Story of Our Bodies

The human body is a fascinating thing! In my line of work, I experience different bodies and study them thoroughly. Each time someone enters my world and hops onto my massage table, I can hardly wait to reveal them. And it doesn’t matter if they are big or small, each body tells a different story.

The Beginning

It’s sometimes said that our bodies are a reflection of the lives we’ve led and the experiences we’ve had. Every part of our body tells something about ourselves. For example, it’s said that the bigger and more pronounced the belly button, the more outgoing and ‘larger than life’ the personality. An overly rounded shoulder means that a person is protecting the space of the heart and is feeling anxious. Rounded toes can indicate someone who is stubborn and always does things “in their own way,” even if they do harm to themselves.

Facial features also can tell a lot about a person’s character. Physiognomy, or the interpretation of the character from the study of a person’s face, is a practice that has been around for centuries. There’s a goldmine of interesting theories to be found in physiognomy. It’s thought that the groove that connects the nose with the mouth can indicate a person’s fertility levels. A long, broad and deep philtrum is a sign of good fertility, while a shallower, less pronounced one can suggest lower fertility levels. Even more amazing, a large nose can be a sign of a powerful person.

If you’d like to dig even deeper with facial features, deep-set eyes imply a more introverted personality, and a deeply furrowed brow means a person might have a lot of built up anger or frustration.

It’s incredible the things you can learn about a person’s character from their facial features.

The In-Between

So of course, there isn’t any scientific evidence that proves these things, but it’s a fun thing to play with! But one thing is for sure; our bodies are certainly affected and shaped by our interior lives, and vice versa.

To see just how interconnected your body really is with your emotions, do the following exercise:

Go outside and go for a walk. You’ll want to walk with your shoulders slumped, and your body bent forward. Make sure you drag your feet, look down, and don’t engage anyone. Act as if no one is there but you and walk slowly. Make your breathing shallow and weak. Now without changing anything, try to be happy. Notice how difficult this is. Make note of how you felt at that moment.

Now I want you to walk with your head raised and your chin up. Walk with confidence. Straighten your back, and keep your shoulders back and breathe in deeply, feeling every breath. Walk firmly and plant your feet. If you want, you can even engage with others and make eye contact. Now, without changing a thing, try and feel depressed. Once again, notice how difficult it is to feel that emotion.

The End

Now that you’ve experienced the mind-body connection, think about how you can influence your moods and change your outlook just by making a few changes to the way you carry yourself. If you

keep practicing this you’ll soon realise how much power your body has.

If you have questions on bodywork, I’m available for sessions in a private setting and would enjoy guiding your body and mind.

In gratitude, Taranga

Are You Mindful?

Mindfulness in simple terms means the state of being aware or conscious of something.

It has everything to do with being totally present and focused, and having full, conscious awareness of whatever you’re doing at the moment. Now it may sound easy, but it’s usually harder for some of us to stay in the moment.

Our brains are huge machines like computers that process data, experiences, and moments on a constant basis. Most of us are always thinking of a million things at once. We rarely focus on just one moment. The present moment. Our minds chatter away, and it’s this relentless noise that can make us stressed, anxious, and tense.

These distractions also disconnect us from the sensual side of life, because when we’re not fully aware of what’s happening to us at the moment. We have too many distractions so in return we miss out on life’s little pleasures and the full depth of our sensuality.

Focusing on the Moment

I want you to now think about how you approach the small tasks in your everyday life. Do you rush through washing the dishes or do you take the time to really “feel” it? It might sound strange, but you can turn something as simple as doing the dishes into a great mindful experience.

Try fully focusing on the task at hand. Feel the warm water touching your skin. Feel the squishiness of the sponge between your fingers and the steam from the water as it curls around your nostrils. This is you being fully conscious and aware! You’re now experiencing being in the moment.

Here’s another exercise to try:

1: Find a quiet spot in your house or wherever you are and close your eyes.

2: Focus all your attention on the pinky finger on your right hand. Remember we want to focus on the present moment and nothing else.

3: Take some deep breaths into your belly.

4: Now on the inhale, imagine sending your breath through your body to that one finger.

5: Next, with each breath you inhale, imagine pulling a bean of light in through the crown of your head and down to your finger.

6: Really feel the blood pulsing there and note any sensations as you continue to breathe slowly and deeply.

You should sense your finger starting to feel bigger and more present. Or you may even feel like it’s the only finger on your hand.

This simple exercise shows how focusing your attention on one thing can bring enhanced sensation. Imagine what could happen if you could apply the technique to other areas of your

own body or even your lovers! There are endless possibilities when you put all your focus and attention on one thing. With this, you can really experience the moment.

So instead of having a full mind, try and be mindful, and start connecting to life on an even deeper level.

In gratitude, Taranga

Better Living Through Sex

Anytime is a beautiful time to reflect on what we’re doing to keep ourselves healthy, aware, and alive to all the sensual elements that are here for us to experience. Now is the perfect time to offer a reminder of some things we can do to keep ourselves active and ready for anything that comes our way. 

A healthy sex life offers more than just heightened intimacy and pleasure. We are sensual beings and every aspect of our lives is connected to each other. It’s no secret, sex feels good. We’ve all(well maybe most) have engaged in sexual activity with another. The touch, feel, and stimulation we receive from another brings more happiness to our lives than you think. It also offers huge benefits for both mind and body. Here are just a few: 

1. Sex is great for the heart 

Sex has great health benefits for the heart and circulatory system. It can lower blood pressure, strengthen the heart, and may reduce the risk of heart attack and stroke. When we orgasm we release happy chemicals that help our overall well-being. 

2. A healthy sex life boosts the immune system 

Regular sex can raise your levels of antibodies and improve your general resistance to illness. Aren’t our bodies amazing It’s amazing the things our body can do if we give it what it needs! Regular sex also improves sleep and lowers stress and anxiety. 

3. Sex lowers stress levels 

I know this was addressed in the last point, but it’s worth mentioning again. Stress causes great confusion in the mind and body. So would it surprise you that stress kills people daily? Stress attacks our bodies in more ways than you can imagine. 

High blood pressure is the main cause of heart disease. It lowers our energy levels, makes sleep difficult, and can cause headaches and migraines. Regular sex is one of the best ways to counter this and balance your body and mind in a healthy way. 

While some doctors say an apple a day keeps the doctor away, some say an orgasm a day keeps the stress away. 

4. Sex increases libido 

Having regular sex increases a person’s sexual desire. It’s kind of like when you keep on doing something you enjoy, you reach new heights. For women, sex lubricates the vagina and increases both elasticity and blood flow. For both men and women, a healthy sex life can help reach new sexual heights and intense orgasms. 

5. Healthy sex life = Better mental and emotional health 

Some of the most obvious benefits are increased confidence and happiness. Regular sex with a partner that matches your level of sensuality, is also the key to intimacy, trust, and love in your relationship. But the benefits go much deeper than that. Staying sexually active in your later years can increase memory and mental acuity. Plus, it ups our emotional intelligence, increasing our 

capacity to perceive, identify, and express our emotions. Don’t have a partner? No problem! Sex toys help both men and women achieve orgasms.  

(maybe put an affiliate link here for your readers to shop for sex toys). 

These are just a few of the benefits of having a healthy sex life. Orgasms are the key to having less stress, better mental and physical health, and being more productive. We all tend to go through some type of stress, but sex can help promote better living for us all.

In gratitude, Taranga.