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Sensual erotic massage is an art that goes far beyond mere touch. It’s an immersive experience that engages all the senses.

The massage experience begins as soon as you enter the space, so it’s important to set the mood with the right lighting, music, and scents, attending to all the little details that create the feel of the space.

In this blog, we’ll explore how to create the perfect atmosphere for sensual erotic massage, and we’ll find out why it’s so important to get these little details right.

Atmosphere Sets the Scene!

The atmosphere in which a sensual erotic massage takes place has a significant impact on the overall experience.

A well-thought-out environment can help both giver and receiver to relax, connect more deeply with one another, and become more fully immersed in the moment.

This enhances the physical sensations and deepens the emotional and psychological connection between partners.

Set the Mood with Lighting

Lighting is one of the most critical elements in creating a sensual atmosphere.  The right lighting can transform a room into an intimate and relaxing sanctuary.

Consider the following when selecting lighting options for your space:

1:  Dim your lights:  Having bright lighting in the room can detract from the ambient setting you are trying to create. You may try using softer lighting such as lamps or candles to ensure a more understated tone in the room.  You can also install a dimmer switch to control the lighting in the room for a more pleasant ambiance.

2:  Candles: Candles are of course the number one choice when creating a romantic / intimate setting.  They come in many shapes, sizes and scents and the flickering light from the candle creates a magical charm to the room.   Make sure the candle is not to heavily scented as some people are sensitive to certain smells and may detract them from relaxing into the session.

3:  Colour shading.  Different colours can set the mood in the room and make the interior more inviting and relaxing.  Try using Sarongs or throws to create an ambient space with more soft colours such as blues, greens and greys (believe it or not).  These colours have calming and relaxing qualities promoting well being and a sense of tranquility.

The Power of music

I like to say that when the music is right the rest of the session flows. I estimate the music is 70% of the session, so getting this part right is crucial.  It allows the person receiving the massage to deeply relax and move into a state of subspace or in other words a deep meditative space.  

Some tips for getting the music right are:

1:  Choosing the right Genre. Unless your partner wants to be listening to Rock & Roll in there session, I suggest playing something more relaxing such as ambient, soft jazz, classical, rain music. Having calm relaxing music as a backdrop allows for the mind and body to relax deeply.

2:  Quality and Volume. Always play your music on a good quality sound system. Play the music at a low to moderate volume. It should be loud enough to be heard clearly but not so loud that it drowns out the sound of breathing or soft whispers.

3: Create a Playlist. By creating your own personal playlists, you add your own style and creative flair into the session.  You can create endless playlists and choose which one to use depending on your mood.  Choose from different Genres and mix and match different sounds.  It also ensures a seamless flow of music throughout the massage. 

The Role Of Scents:

Your sense of smell may become heightened when receiving a massage and can have a profound impact on both mood and emotions.  The right aromas can evoke feeling of relaxation and wellbeing throughout the massage session.  

Here are ways to bring beautiful aromas into your massage:

1:  Essential Oils:  A few drops of essential oil into a diffuser can enlighten the whole room.  Scents like Jasmine, Lavender, Sandalwood are known for there relaxing qualities.  

2:  Fresh Flowers:  Not only do Fresh Flowers give an aesthetic look to the room but also give off a subtle fragrance.  Flowers such as Roses, Gardenia, Jasmine and Lilacs are known for there strong sweet scents.

3: Incense:  Lighting incense in a room can create a pleasant aroma; however, it is important to ensure that the fragrance is not overpowering.

Some popular incense aromas are: Lavender, Jasmine, Rose, Sage and Cedarwood.

It’s the little things that count.

We have spoken about how lighting, music and scents can add to the whole experience of the massage but there are some other elements which matter as well.  Every detail matters and as I like to say “It is the little things that count”.  Here are some of those little touches that make the whole experience amazing.

1:  Being Comfortable:  Ensure that the massage room is inviting, warm, engaging.  Having a soft plush massage table with clean warm sheets. Use an electric blanket in the winter months. Supporting the body with a leg cushion

2:  Temperature:  There is nothing worse than being on a massage table and being cold throughout your session.  Making sure that the temperature is the correct heat in the room is key for a magical experience.  Use heaters and electric blankets to keep the temperature pleasant.

3:  Visual Aesthetics:  Having a clean, uncluttered room that is inviting creates a sense of calm.  It is always lovely to hear someone say, “you have a lovely space” when they walk into the room.  You can use lovely pictures on the walls, flowers and ambient lighting to create your space and make it visually appealing.

So, to sum up…

The massage experience begins as soon as you step into the space. So, it’s important to get the atmosphere right with careful selection of lighting, music, scent, and other sensory elements.

By crafting a beautiful space, you can transform a simple massage into an unforgettable experience

that engages all the senses, deepens emotional connections, and offers deep relaxation.

Whether you’re giving or receiving, the right atmosphere can make all the difference, turning a sensual massage into a profound and intimate journey for both partners.

In gratitude Taranga

In some ways, it can be hard to live alone.

We’re social creatures. We need interaction, communication, and touch. Living alone means these things aren’t part of our home life, so we have to seek them elsewhere.

But there are some pretty massive tradeoffs, too.

Living alone can be incredibly empowering. It can offer space to grow and explore in any way we need, when we need. This fosters a deeper sense of independence, but that’s just the beginning. Done right, a solitary lifestyle can support deep personal growth and intense self-discovery.

So, in this blog, we’ll explore some of the biggest benefits of living alone, and offer one key tip to overcome some of the drawbacks of a more solitary existence.

(And, if you think it’s massage, you got it in one!)

1. Personal Freedom and Independence

This one almost goes without saying. When you live with others, it’s a compromise. You have to consider their schedules, needs, and preferences and find a happy middle ground.

Now, it’s really healthy to learn to work with others smoothly and find common ground. But it’s also a blessing to have your own domain that works the way you want and need it to.

Living alone offers the autonomy to craft your space and fill your time in ways that work for you. In short, you have complete:

●  Decision-Making Power: You have complete control over your living environment and daily routine. This autonomy allows you to make decisions that are solely in your best interest. Every decision, from the mundane to the significant, fosters more confidence and self-reliance.

●  And Creative Expression: Your living space becomes a canvas for your creativity, reflecting your personality and tastes.

2. Self-Discovery and Personal Growth

When living with others, it’s easy to get into a routine, trapped in the same cycles without opportunity for reflection or forward motion. Or, we can find ourselves distracted and constantly busy, our creative energy split in several directions at once.

One significant upside of living alone is that you have less distractions or external

demands on your time.

The funny thing about this is that we will tend to find the excess of time challenging at first. We have to figure out where to put our energy, and the thoughts tend to ruminate pretty loudly.

Time alone means time in reflection, which if you do it right, will help you to understand yourself better. As we adjust to a solitary lifestyle, we tend to become much more clear about who we are, what we want, need, and value.

With time to sit with ourselves, we come to understand more deeply our desires and needs and values. This clarity helps us to spend our time and energy in ways that really work for us. To follow our passions and interests, to work on ourselves and develop our skills.

●  Introspection: Solitude provides ample time for reflection, helping you to gain insights into your thoughts and emotions, which can lead to improved mental health and emotional resilience.

●  Skill Development: When we take responsibility for our own lives on every level, we learn the practical skills of adult life, becoming more independent and self-sufficient. Solitary life also offers us more space to focus on inner growth, self-awareness, and actualization.

3. Enhanced Productivity and Focus

When you live alone, you set the tone. You create your environment. And you can set it up in a way that supports your personal and professional productivity. Which means, no interruptions, and the space arranged just right to help you focus and get stuff done.

For deep creative work, this is incredibly valuable. When you can arrange the space to let it flow, and have uninterrupted time to play the inspiration through, amazing things can happen.

●  Tailored Work Environment: You can set up your home office exactly how you need it, optimising for comfort and productivity without needing to consider others’ preferences.

●  Uninterrupted Flow: Without the distractions of roommates or family members, you can enter a state of deep work, significantly boosting your output and creativity.

4. Emotional Resilience and Self-Compassion

Ok. Now, we’re still talking about upsides. But this one is a bit of a double-edged sword.

There are times that we can become over reliant upon others, trying to offload our stress or anxiety to others without actually processing and releasing it. But there are other times where healthy emotional processing is supported by being seen, heard, and accepted by another human being.

When living with others, many things can happen. We may have a healthy, conscious dynamic with those we live with, supporting free expression and inviting greater emotional wellbeing. Or, we may have a challenging dynamic that constricts free expression and builds up tension in the background.

Unfortunately, most of us experience some challenging dynamics with friends and loved ones. Living alone can offer a bit of distance from these challenging dynamics, and help us to set a new emotional baseline.

It is both incredibly challenging to develop emotional healthy connections with loved ones, and incredibly rewarding when we are able to come together in healthy connection. Deeply healing for all involved.

That said, most people would find it beneficial to live alone, at least for a short period. It gives us space to develop a more conscious relationship with ourselves, to feel our feelings, and learn how to meet them with compassion. And in the process, we begin to develop a bit more emotional resilience.

●  Emotional Independence: Facing life’s ups and downs on your own builds emotional strength and teaches you how to manage stress and adversity effectively.

●  Self-Care Routine: Without the pressures of living with others, you can prioritise self-care routines that nurture your physical and mental health, leading to a more balanced and fulfilling life.

5. Financial Responsibility and Management

It’s not easy to manage a household on your own. It takes a fair bit of financial literacy, along with a sense of responsibility and the discipline to follow through.

But it becomes easier, and once we get the hang of it, we can handle ourselves no matter where we end up. When we pay our own way, we learn the true value of our money. Which leads to better budgeting and saving, and wiser financial habits.

●  Budgeting Skills: Handling all the financial aspects of living alone, from rent to utilities, hones your budgeting and financial planning skills.

●  Financial Independence: Successfully managing your finances boosts your confidence and sense of accomplishment, reinforcing your overall independence.

Incorporating Massage into the Solo Lifestyle

Now, although there are loads of benefits to living alone, there are some challenges as well. One of the big ones is a lack of regular physical contact.

We all need touch. It’s a basic, human thing, and it’s essential for both physical and emotional health and wellbeing.

And, one great way to incorporate healthy touch into your routine is with regular massage.

The Importance of Touch

Human touch is crucial for health, and it provides us with loads of benefits. It reduces stress, lowers blood pressure, and improves mood.

And, massage therapy is a powerful way to incorporate this essential element of human touch into your life. It’s a beautiful form of self-care for the body, mind, and heart.

●  Stress Reduction: Massage helps lower levels of cortisol, the stress hormone. This promotes relaxation and reduces anxiety.

●  Physical Health: Regular massage can alleviate muscle tension, improve circulation, and enhance overall physical wellbeing.

●  Emotional Wellbeing: The nurturing touch of massage therapy releases oxytocin, the “feel-good” hormone, contributing to emotional balance and happiness.

Getting a Professional Massage

One of the most effective ways to incorporate the benefits of touch into your solo lifestyle is through professional massage therapy.

Here are just a few reasons that professional massages can be especially beneficial:

1. Expertise and Tailored Care: Professional massage therapists are trained to understand the intricacies of the human body and can tailor their techniques to address your specific needs, whether it’s alleviating chronic pain, reducing stress, or enhancing relaxation.
2. Regular Appointments: Scheduling regular massage sessions can provide a consistent and reliable source of touch, ensuring that you receive its benefits on an ongoing basis. This routine can become a cornerstone of your self-care regimen, offering a dedicated time for relaxation and rejuvenation.
3. Variety of Techniques: Professional therapists are skilled in a range of massage techniques, from Swedish and deep tissue to hot stone and aromatherapy massages. This variety allows you to explore different methods and find what works best for your body and mind.
4. Mental Escape: A professional massage session offers a mental escape from the demands of daily life. The serene environment of a massage studio, combined with the soothing touch of a therapist, can transport you to a place of tranquility and peace, helping to reset your mental state.
5. Enhanced Benefits: The combination of professional expertise and the therapeutic environment can amplify the benefits of massage. This includes improved sleep, enhanced mood, and better overall physical health, which are crucial for maintaining balance and well-being while living alone.

So, to sum up…

Living alone can be a profoundly empowering lifestyle choice. It can help us to develop personal freedom, self-discovery, productivity, emotional resilience, and financial responsibility.

While a solitary lifestyle offers numerous benefits, it’s also essential to address the need for human touch through practices like professional massage therapy.

By integrating regular sessions with a professional massage therapist into your solo lifestyle, you can enhance your physical and emotional wellbeing. Which is to say, you will feel better, physically and emotionally.

So, if it’s time to make professional massage a part of your routine, feel free to contact me.

In gratitude, Taranga

Have you ever noticed what sexual energy brings to your life?

Sex arouses passion, keys us into drive, and helps us connect with all the juiciest bits of life! It helps us to open up, feel our bodies, and connect more deeply with one another.

Sexual energy is a powerful force. It can enhance our lives in many ways, from increasing intimacy with our partners to boosting overall well-being. But many people struggle with low libido and lack of desire, and some have difficulty experiencing pleasure.

Fortunately, we have a solution! Massage therapy can be a powerful tool for increasing sexual energy and enhancing the experience of love.

Massage therapy has been used for centuries to promote physical, mental, and emotional health. It is a natural way to stimulate the body’s natural healing processes, release tension and stress, and promote relaxation. When done correctly, massage can also increase blood flow, improve circulation, and promote the release of endorphins, which are natural painkillers and mood boosters.

One way that massage can help to increase sexual energy is by increasing blood flow to the genital area. This increased blood flow helps to improve sexual function and enhance sexual pleasure. Massage also helps to release tension and stress in the body, which contributes to a more positive sexual experience.

Another way that massage can increase sexual energy is by promoting the release of oxytocin, which is often referred to as the “love hormone.” Oxytocin is released when we receive physical touch, including massage. It can help to increase feelings of trust, intimacy, and connection with our partners. This increased sense of connection can lead to a more fulfilling sexual experience.

When we’re tense and anxious, it drains our energy, leaving us exhausted and out of tune with our pleasure center. Many people also experience anxiety or stress related to sexual performance or intimacy. Massage therapy can help to increase sexual energy by promoting relaxation and reducing anxiety. It helps us to drop the worry and relax, opening up the pleasure centers and fostering more comfortable interaction.

There are many different types of massage therapy that can be used to increase sexual energy and enhance the experience of love. Some popular types of massage for sexual health include:

Lomi Lomi massage  A traditional Hawaiian massage technique that involves long, flowing strokes over the whole body. It is often referred to as “Loving Hands” massage and is believed to be a holistic healing practice that integrates physical, emotional and spiritual elements.

Kahuna Massage  Kahuna massage is a traditional form of bodywork that originated in Hawaii and is based on the principles of Huna, a Hawaiian philosophy that emphasises harmony, balance, and connection with the natural world.  It involves rhythmic movements, deep tissue work and the use of forearms, elbows, and hands to provide a therapeutic and transformative experience for the recipient.

Thai massage. A type of massage that combines acupressure, stretching, and deep breathing to promote relaxation and improve circulation.

Sensual massage. A type of massage that focuses on stimulating erogenous zones and increasing sexual pleasure.

It is important to choose a massage therapist who is experienced and knowledgeable about massage for sexual health. They should be able to discuss your specific concerns and goals and develop a customised massage therapy plan that meets your needs.

Massage therapy is a powerful way to boost your sexual energy and connect more deeply and sensually with your body. But it is only part of a healthy sexual regimen. It’s also important to eat a healthy diet, exercise regularly, and get enough sleep, both for our sexual health and overall.

And let’s not forget the inner experience. Sex is about more than just our bodies. The health and function of our mind and body are tied together intimately. Practicing mindfulness techniques such as meditation or deep breathing can help to reduce stress and increase relaxation. It can also make you more present, which is huge. Magic happens when you really show up to the moment!

Massage therapy is a powerful tool for increasing sexual energy and enhancing the experience of love. Reduce stress, get present in your body, start feeling better. How can you beat that?

If you are interested in exploring the benefits of massage for sexual health, be sure to choose a massage therapist who is experienced and knowledgeable about this type of therapy.

Have fun and feel good, folks!

In gratitude,

Taranga

Ok, folks. Here’s one for you: What is the link between being healthy and feeling good?

Pleasure is a big part of human experience. We’re hardwired to seek out activities and experiences that bring us joy and happiness. Unfortunately, pleasure is often dismissed as a frivolous pursuit with little connection to overall well-being.

But that couldn’t be further from the truth! Pleasure and well-being are intimately connected. A growing body of evidence supports the importance of pleasure in promoting overall health and happiness.

Let’s take a look at the science:

The brain is the primary organ responsible for experiencing pleasure. Our feelings of pleasure are linked to the release of neurotransmitters such as dopamine, serotonin, and endorphins. These chemicals are released when we do things that bring us pleasure, like eating delicious food, getting physically active, or spending time with loved ones.

Research shows that pleasure plays a critical role in promoting overall health and well-being. Studies have found that engaging in pleasurable activities can improve mood, reduce stress, and promote a more positive outlook on life. Pleasure has also been linked to better physical health outcomes, such as reduced risk of cardiovascular disease and improved immune function.

Pleasure also promotes well-being by helping us to release stress. Chronic stress is a significant risk factor for a range of physical and mental health problems, including depression, anxiety, and heart disease. Doing things that bring us pleasure can help us to reduce stress and promote relaxation, leading to better health outcomes.

Shared leasure can also promote social connectedness, which is another critical aspect of overall well-being. Social connection has been linked to improved mental health outcomes, reduced risk of chronic disease, and increased longevity. Pleasurable activities that involve spending time with loved ones, such as sharing a meal or engaging in a shared hobby, can help to promote social connection and improve overall well-being.

That’s not all! Pleasure can also help to promote personal growth and development. Doing things that we enjoy can help us to build self-esteem and confidence, which can lead to greater success in other areas of life. Pleasure can also help to boost creativity and innovation, as it allows us to explore new ideas and perspectives.

It is important to remember that we are all unique. What brings one person pleasure may not bring pleasure to another. And there’s a balance to everything. Engaging in pleasurable activities can promote well-being, but excessive indulgence can lead to addiction and other health problems.

So there you have it. Feeling good helps us to be healthy and happy. It helps us to form strong connections with one another and motivates us to grow and develop. Pleasure, in so many ways, is what life’s all about.

In gratitude,

Taranga

Experience New Intimacy

I believe we’ve all come to a point where we want to recreate an intense romance that we previously felt. We want to feel those emotions rushing into our bodies and experience that moment where we had complete bliss. You want to go back and indulge once again, but you’re at a crossroads.

Are you experiencing ‘flat-lining’ in your intimate relationship? Have you been feeling that there is no ‘newness’ or sense of adventure? Do you feel that the honeymoon phase is over and nothing has piqued your interest in a while?

If you’re avoiding intimacy because you’re experiencing boredom, you can recreate those early feelings you had and experience that newness you’ve been craving.

It’s very simple actually. It may sound silly for some, but it’s the easiest thing to do. Here’s how — ask permission.

Create a practise in your intimate time, where you ask permission for everything you want to do to your partner. Want to kiss? Ask for permission. Want to touch her there? Ask for permission to do so. By doing this, you’re setting the tone for new intimate moments.

Try asking your partner to have a special intimate moment together in the setting of their choice. If you’d like to surprise them, make sure you know what they like first. You still want to make sure that you ask for permission. This is key.

Creating an atmosphere where there are no distractions. You and your partner should be alone with no electronics or extra bodies.

Nurture your beloved. Make them feel safe that they can explore intimacy with you again. Listen to their wants and desires and really hear them for who they are. All couples experience different phases of intimacy as they grow together, but it’s important that we all try to stay selfless in the process.

There are many ways you can heighten your level of intimacy with your partner. Making dinner, washing one another’s hair, and giving one another massages, or all great ways to bring back that close connection with your partner.

During your time together, make sure you slow down and ask for permission. Don’t guess and do what you “think” your partner would like. Instead, try a new approach and simply ask and see if they will allow you to touch them like this or that.

Ask “may I…?”

You’ll notice the change in your intimacy and feel like a new person. It’s like pressing the reset button on a monotonous relationship.

I invite you to try it out and give me your results. In gratitude,

Taranga

Giving and Receiving

Sometimes I like to stop and think of how grateful I am to be working in a field I enjoy so much. I live and breathe every word you see on my website and in my blogs. I love giving you all information and seeing how you receive it. And that has made me suddenly very aware of how much easier it is for me to give than it is to receive. And yet, I doubt I’m alone in that.

For most of us, it just feels much more within our comfort zone to give. For instance, think about the joy you get from seeing someone’s face light up as they open a present you’ve bought them or the pleasure of preparing a delicious meal for someone special. You love that feeling of knowing you did something to make someone happy, right? It’s clear that giving is easy.

Receiving, on the other hand, can make us uncomfortable for many reasons. It’s as though we’re hardwired to feel guilty for receiving something in return or pleasure. That’s true in most instances, especially when it comes to sex. Most of us seem to believe that sex should be about giving and receiving pleasure at the same time. But how can we fully enjoy our own pleasure when we’re simultaneously trying to give to our partner? Think about one popular sex position where you give and receive at the same time. It’s hard to keep giving when what you’re receiving is so pleasurable, right?

Breaking The Cycle

There’s a way around this and it’s more simple than you think. It’s communication. So let’s learn how to do this.

Step 1: Agree to take turns with your lover, so you can both experience separate moments of giving and receiving. Set your intentions before you start by deciding who’s going to give and receive pleasure at which point.

Step 2: Ask for what you want. Tell your partner what you like and in detail. Ask them to go a little harder or more gently. Tell them if you want more tongue or less. Let them know exactly what you desire. Once you do this, you’ll be able to enjoy the experience of receiving, without feeling guilty about whether your partner’s having a good time. That weight will be lifted off your shoulders.

Remember that conscious receiving means staying awake and present at the moment. No matter what’s going on, you don’t want to drift away into another thought. Master this practice, and you’ll be able to surrender and enjoy a fulfilled sex life.

And if you ever feel guilt taking over, remember that it’s completely okay to have your own moment to receive pleasure without doing any giving.

In gratitude

Taranga