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I’m often amazed at how people transform once they touch, love, and enjoy themselves. We often take the human touch for granted and all the healthy things it can do for us. I read a study about how volunteers were brought in to gently stroke the skin of premature babies for 10 minutes a day, while another group of babies was left untouched. The stroked babies gained weight and strength faster and were released from the hospital earlier than the babies who weren’t touched. That shows us just how much touch can transform a life.

Unfortunately, many of us are not too receptive to such affection. When we often first meet someone, we give them a brief handshake or maybe a slight hug. It’s interesting that even though there are studies that prove touch is a great healer, we often shy away from it.
If we had more safe, acceptable ways to touch each other, there might be a lot less illness,

sadness, isolation, and violence in the world.

Many of us don’t realize that touching releases powerful endorphins and other feel-good chemicals that help to heal physical and emotional aches and pains, relieve tension and calm both mind and body. While some of us may think it’s best to have a drink of wine when we’re feeling emotionally drained, a simple touch can cure emotional wear and tear.

The Touching Exercise

While we can’t always experience another human’s touch, there are other ways to receive the same benefits.

Let’s try this out.

The key to this exercise is to touch yourself with a real sense of caring for yourself. You don’t want to just touch yourself because you feel you have to. Really feel the motions and put yourself first.

Start by gently massaging your own scalp. You’ll want to rub it with your fingertips all over, paying particular attention to the spots that are a little sore. Most of the time the temples are a focus point or the back of the head in that hollow where the skull meets the top of the spine.

Now tug at your hair gently or with more strength, and use the heel of your hand to rub and stimulate every part of your head. Believe it or not, we store an incredible amount of tension in our heads, so this can feel extremely relaxing. Enjoy the feeling and breathe in and out. Close your eyes if you desire.

Next, you’ll want to give your face a few strokes. Working from the centre of your forehead/middle of your nose/ lips outwards, then massage and squeeze your ears and press in at each side of your cheeks where your jawbone pivots.

Run your hands gently over the front of your entire body. Caressing it in a sense. You can have on a few clothes or naked, before using a towel to rub the entire backside of your body from head to toe.

Now the finishing touch. Give yourself a foot rub in any way that feels good for you, and finish by wrapping your arms around your own body and giving yourself a good hug!

How do you feel now? Hopefully, you’re feeling more energised and calmer. Maybe you feel like a new person who just got a great night’s rest. This is a simple exercise you can do if you’re feeling the need to be touched, but no one is around to assist.

I’m also available for sessions should you need something more extensive.

In gratitude,

Taranga

The human body is a fascinating thing! In my line of work, I experience different bodies and study them thoroughly. Each time someone enters my world and hops onto my massage table, I can hardly wait to reveal them. And it doesn’t matter if they are big or small, each body tells a different story.

The Beginning

It’s sometimes said that our bodies are a reflection of the lives we’ve led and the experiences we’ve had. Every part of our body tells something about ourselves. For example, it’s said that the bigger and more pronounced the belly button, the more outgoing and ‘larger than life’ the personality. An overly rounded shoulder means that a person is protecting the space of the heart and is feeling anxious. Rounded toes can indicate someone who is stubborn and always does things “in their own way,” even if they do harm to themselves.

Facial features also can tell a lot about a person’s character. Physiognomy, or the interpretation of the character from the study of a person’s face, is a practice that has been around for centuries. There’s a goldmine of interesting theories to be found in physiognomy. It’s thought that the groove that connects the nose with the mouth can indicate a person’s fertility levels. A long, broad and deep philtrum is a sign of good fertility, while a shallower, less pronounced one can suggest lower fertility levels. Even more amazing, a large nose can be a sign of a powerful person.

If you’d like to dig even deeper with facial features, deep-set eyes imply a more introverted personality, and a deeply furrowed brow means a person might have a lot of built up anger or frustration.

It’s incredible the things you can learn about a person’s character from their facial features.

The In-Between

So of course, there isn’t any scientific evidence that proves these things, but it’s a fun thing to play with! But one thing is for sure; our bodies are certainly affected and shaped by our interior lives, and vice versa.

To see just how interconnected your body really is with your emotions, do the following exercise:

Go outside and go for a walk. You’ll want to walk with your shoulders slumped, and your body bent forward. Make sure you drag your feet, look down, and don’t engage anyone. Act as if no one is there but you and walk slowly. Make your breathing shallow and weak. Now without changing anything, try to be happy. Notice how difficult this is. Make note of how you felt at that moment.

Now I want you to walk with your head raised and your chin up. Walk with confidence. Straighten your back, and keep your shoulders back and breathe in deeply, feeling every breath. Walk firmly and plant your feet. If you want, you can even engage with others and make eye contact. Now, without changing a thing, try and feel depressed. Once again, notice how difficult it is to feel that emotion.

The End

Now that you’ve experienced the mind-body connection, think about how you can influence your moods and change your outlook just by making a few changes to the way you carry yourself. If you

keep practicing this you’ll soon realise how much power your body has.

If you have questions on bodywork, I’m available for sessions in a private setting and would enjoy guiding your body and mind.

In gratitude, Taranga

Mindfulness in simple terms means the state of being aware or conscious of something.

It has everything to do with being totally present and focused, and having full, conscious awareness of whatever you’re doing at the moment. Now it may sound easy, but it’s usually harder for some of us to stay in the moment.

Our brains are huge machines like computers that process data, experiences, and moments on a constant basis. Most of us are always thinking of a million things at once. We rarely focus on just one moment. The present moment. Our minds chatter away, and it’s this relentless noise that can make us stressed, anxious, and tense.

These distractions also disconnect us from the sensual side of life, because when we’re not fully aware of what’s happening to us at the moment. We have too many distractions so in return we miss out on life’s little pleasures and the full depth of our sensuality.

Focusing on the Moment

I want you to now think about how you approach the small tasks in your everyday life. Do you rush through washing the dishes or do you take the time to really “feel” it? It might sound strange, but you can turn something as simple as doing the dishes into a great mindful experience.

Try fully focusing on the task at hand. Feel the warm water touching your skin. Feel the squishiness of the sponge between your fingers and the steam from the water as it curls around your nostrils. This is you being fully conscious and aware! You’re now experiencing being in the moment.

Here’s another exercise to try:

1: Find a quiet spot in your house or wherever you are and close your eyes.

2: Focus all your attention on the pinky finger on your right hand. Remember we want to focus on the present moment and nothing else.

3: Take some deep breaths into your belly.

4: Now on the inhale, imagine sending your breath through your body to that one finger.

5: Next, with each breath you inhale, imagine pulling a bean of light in through the crown of your head and down to your finger.

6: Really feel the blood pulsing there and note any sensations as you continue to breathe slowly and deeply.

You should sense your finger starting to feel bigger and more present. Or you may even feel like it’s the only finger on your hand.

This simple exercise shows how focusing your attention on one thing can bring enhanced sensation. Imagine what could happen if you could apply the technique to other areas of your

own body or even your lovers! There are endless possibilities when you put all your focus and attention on one thing. With this, you can really experience the moment.

So instead of having a full mind, try and be mindful, and start connecting to life on an even deeper level.

In gratitude, Taranga