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Who doesn’t like to bust a myth from time to time? It’s always good to challenge our assumptions, and we tend to have loads of them around sexuality.

For too long, the myth has persisted that all genitalia are created equal. It’s time to break down this misconception and acknowledge the truth: all genitalia are unique, just like every other part of our bodies.

Many people are taught to believe that there are only two types of genitals: the penis and the vagina. But the reality is far more complex than that. The truth is that there is a wide variety of genital anatomy, and that everyone’s genitals are different.

One of the biggest misconceptions about genitals is that there is a “normal” or “ideal” way for them to look. In reality, there is no such thing as a “normal” or “ideal” genital appearance. Every individual has their own unique genital shape, size, and appearance. Just like every person’s face, hair, and body are different, so too are their genitals.

It’s important to recognize that genital diversity is not only natural, but also healthy. The more we understand and accept the range of genital variations, the less we stigmatize and shame people for their bodies. We can, instead, promote more positive attitudes toward sexual health and pleasure.

Another common myth is that people with certain types of genitals are more or less sexual than others. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Sexual arousal and pleasure are not determined by genital size, shape, or appearance. Rather, they are influenced by a complex interplay of physical, emotional, and psychological factors.

Unfortunately, many people still hold on to outdated and harmful beliefs about genitalia. For example, some believe that people with larger genitalia are more sexually desirable. Others view small genitalia as a sign of weakness or inferiority. These attitudes can lead to negative body image and self-esteem issues, as well as sexual dysfunction and dissatisfaction.

To break down these harmful beliefs, we need to promote a more inclusive and accepting attitude toward genital diversity. This means acknowledging and celebrating the unique features of all genitalia, rather than trying to fit them into narrow and unrealistic beauty standards.

It’s time to debunk the myth that all genitals are alike. By embracing the diversity of our bodies, we can promote a healthier and more positive attitude toward sexual health and pleasure. So let’s celebrate the beautiful, complex, and unique diversity of genitalia, and strive to create a more inclusive and accepting world for all.

In Gratitude,

Taranga

Ok so today we’re going to talk about orgasms!

We all know that orgasms can feel amazing. But what you might like to know is that they’re also really good for your health. Studies suggest that regular orgasms can help to reduce stress, boost mood, improve sleep, and even strengthen the immune system. In this blog, we’ll explore the benefits of daily orgasms and how you can incorporate them into your self-care routine.

First, let’s talk about mental health. Orgasms release endorphins, the body’s natural feel good chemicals. This can help to reduce feelings of stress and anxiety, improve our mood, and even alleviate symptoms of depression. The act of orgasm itself can be a form of self-care, allowing you to take time to focus on your body and your pleasure.

But the benefits of orgasms don’t stop there. They can also have a positive impact on physical health. Studies show that orgasms can help to reduce blood pressure, boost the immune system, and even improve sleep quality. This is because orgasms trigger the release of hormones like oxytocin and prolactin, which have been linked to overall health and wellness.

So, how can you incorporate daily orgasms into your self-care routine? Here are some tips:

Prioritize Self-Pleasure

Self-pleasure is a great way to explore your body and learn what feels good. Set aside time each day to focus on yourself and your pleasure, without any pressure to perform or achieve a certain outcome.

Communicate with Your Partner

If you have a partner, communicate your desires and needs in the bedroom. Talk openly about what you enjoy and what you want to try, and work together to create a fulfilling sexual experience for both of you.

Experiment with Different Techniques

There are many different techniques and toys that can help to enhance your orgasmic experience. Try exploring different techniques like edging, or experiment with sex toys like vibrators or dildos.

Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness can help you to stay present in the moment and fully experience the sensations of pleasure during orgasm. Try practicing mindfulness techniques like deep breathing or body scans during self-pleasure or partnered sex.

Prioritize your overall health

While orgasms can have many health benefits, they are just one aspect of overall health and wellness. Make sure to prioritize other aspects of self-care, like exercise, healthy eating, and adequate sleep, to support your physical and mental health.

Well, there you have it, folks. Orgasms aren’t just fun, they’re also healthy. Sounds like we have a yummy addition to our daily routine.

In Gratitude,

Taranga

Sex can be one of the most beautiful experiences in life. But did you know the power of sound can make it feel even better?

From moans and groans to whispered words of pleasure, sound can add a whole new dimension to the sexual experience. In this blog, we’ll explore why sound is good in sex and how to use it to take your play to new heights.

First, let’s look at the physiological effects. Moaning and groaning can help to regulate breathing and increase oxygen flow to the body. Deeper breathing and vocalizing also stimulate the release of endorphins, the body’s natural feel-good chemicals. This can lead to a more intense and pleasurable sexual experience, as well as a deeper sense of intimacy with your partner.

But it doesn’t stop there. Moans and groans can also serve as a form of communication between partners, indicating pleasure and helping to guide the sexual experience. This can help to create a sense of vulnerability and trust, allowing partners to fully let go and surrender to the moment.

So, how can you unlock the power of sound during sex? Here are some tips:

Focus on Your Breath

Sound is often closely tied to breath, so focusing on your breath during sex can help to naturally encourage moans and groans. Take deep, slow breaths and exhale with a sigh or moan to create a natural rhythm of sound.

Embrace Vulnerability

It can be intimidating to let go and make noise during sex, but embracing vulnerability means allowing yourself to feel and express pleasure. Remember that making noise is a natural and healthy part of sexual expression.

Communicate with Your Partner

Breath and sound can serve as a form of communication between partners. Without even saying a word, we can guide our partner, letting them know what we enjoy. Make sure to communicate with your partner, letting them know what feels good and encouraging them to do the same.

Experiment with Different Sounds

Moaning and groaning are just two examples of sounds that can enhance the sexual experience. Try experimenting with different sounds, like whispered words or even screams, to see what feels good and adds to the moment.

Don’t Be Afraid to Be Loud!

While some people may be more reserved during sex, making noise is a natural and healthy part of sexual expression. Don’t be afraid to let go and be loud, if that’s what feels good for you and your partner.

So to recap, sound can add a whole new dimension to the sexual experience! It can heighten pleasure, deepen intimacy, and strengthen the connection between you and your partner.

But don’t take my word for it! Try it out yourself and unlock the power of sound in your own sexual experiences and enjoy all the benefits it has to offer. Who’s ready to make a little noise?

In gratitude,

Taranga

Do you know how to touch?

There is a certain art to touching that many don’t know of. You might think it’s as simple as placing the palm of your hand somewhere, but it goes deeper than that. If you’ve read some of my other articles, you probably know that the human touch has a lot of health benefits. Besides releasing happy chemicals and feeling better overall, being touched is in our human nature.

But do you know the art of touching? Do you know how to properly touch someone or even yourself?

When touching someone, you want to touch with the whole hand and not just the fingers or palm. Place your entire hand on the body. This lets the receiver know you’re present and helps them to feel confident.

When you touch the body slowly and with awareness, you are more present and in tune with your partner. When this happens you become one with the other. It’s like you’re in sync. With this, the possibilities for your intimate play are endless.

Implementing Touch

When receiving touch, each person generally likes it to be exactly how they feel it’s needed for their own particular body. We all have desires and individual needs that we would like met. It’s important that both you and your partner are responsive to requests. You do this by simply asking your lover what they need at the moment. Listen to what they’re telling you, then act on their feedback. It’s important to not guess what your partner enjoys. Being verbal and direct is best for the sensual experience.

Sometimes you may not have anyone around to touch, but still want to enjoy the pleasure. Always touch yourself with meaning and allow the energy in your body to flow. Feel everything in the moment and drop other thoughts from your mind.

If experiencing touch in this way is new for you, remember to take things slow and communicate clear desires. When trying to implement something new into your life, it’s important to practice and be consistent in your efforts. In time, the art of touching will be second nature to you and you’ll continue to enjoy the many benefits it offers.

Remember to enjoy yourself and let go.
Now I want you to experience this new art of touching for yourself.

In gratitude

Taranga

Sex and Power:Taking the blinders off

We’ve all had burning desires we want to experience in this lifetime. Some of them may even be a bit illicit but a desire nonetheless.

Maybe you want your lover to push you down on the bed, slip your panties off and slide their tongue between your legs without hesitation.You want to be teased until you can’t control yourself and beg and plead to have them inside of you.

Sex and power seem to go hand and hand.

There’s a primal side to our nature and it needs to be expressed. Often in our everyday lives, we suppress that desire to exert our power when it comes to our pleasures. Sometimes we want to let go and tap into that wild side.

This primal nature that we have is part of being human. It is the source of our joy and drive. Sex is an act that makes us vulnerable and gives us the opportunity to express ourselves deeply to another. Our most intense, most passionate selves. But it goes a bit deeper than this.

BDSM & Power

Bondassage and BDSM are about enforcing power and giving it away. It’s an opportunity to honour these secret passions, to look our deepest nature in the face and give it full expression. It’s a chance to move into a place of acceptance of these desires, as healthy and right.

When we step out of our everyday roles, we get to experience different possibilities and change the narrative of our lives. By stepping out, we give ourselves permission to take control and to give control of ourselves to another. All of this is power.

This means shining a light on those hidden desires and letting them be seen. And it means moving into a place of trust.This includes trusting ourselves to act from those depths of intensity and to be received.We also have to remember to trust our lover to take control and show us how exciting it can be to really let go.

Unfortunately, society has cast a shadow on these more primal sides of being human. Most of us aren’t programmed to show our sexual side or our vulnerable selves willingly. Many equate being so open and free with derogatory terms. This is a habit that needs to be broken.

Those who have dipped into the deeper side of their beings are healthier and more comfortable with themselves.They know who they are and what they want. They understand themselves in and out and welcome the sensual aspects of life.

Letting Go

Authenticity and consciousness in relation are more than just being honest and calm when explaining issues. It also means letting yourself explore those juicy exciting bits of sensuality, within yourself and in your partner. Sometimes it means trying something new and understanding that no risk means no gain.

It means opening those doors of sexuality that were locked for no good reason and letting the energy move you, in the way it wants. Sincerity means
screaming your pleasure and letting your body feel the deep pleasures of being comfortable in your sensuality.

Now I want you to let yourself feel what it wants. I want you to stop blocking the energy that your body wants to feel. Let go and you may surprise yourself with what you gain.

In Gratitude

Taranga

In recent years, a new form of sensual massage has emerged called “Bondassage”. This unique form of bodywork combines elements of bondage, sensory deprivation, and massage to create a deeply immersive and transformative experience.

Let’s take a closer look at what Bondassage is and see what it has to offer.

What is Bondassage?

Bondassage is as a way to help clients explore their desires and boundaries in a safe and consensual environment. It combines elements of bondage, sensory deprivation, and massage to create a unique and immersive experience that can be deeply relaxing and transformative.

During a Bondassage session, the client is typically blindfolded and restrained using various forms of bondage, such as handcuffs or silk scarves. The practitioner then uses a combination of massage techniques, including Lomi Lomi, Swedish etc. This stimulates the client’s senses, helping them to relax and surrender to the experience.

Benefits of Bondassage

1. Deep Relaxation: Bondassage is a deeply relaxing experience. It’s a beautiful way to reduce stress and anxiety. By creating a safe and consensual environment and stimulating the senses, Bondassage can help to release tension and promote a sense of calm and tranquility.

2. Enhanced Sensuality: Bondassage is a sensual exploration. It helps us to tune in to our senses and become alive to our bodies. By exploring new sensations and stimulating erogenous zones, Bondassage can help clients to reconnect with their bodies and deepen their capacity for pleasure.

3. Exploration of Desires: Bondassage can be a powerful tool for exploring desires and boundaries in a safe and consensual environment. By creating a space for open communication and exploration, Bondassage can help you to gain a better understanding of their sexual preferences and boundaries.

4. Increased Intimacy: Bondassage can be a powerful way for couples to connect on a deeper level. By exploring new sensations and boundaries together, couples can share new levels of intimacy and strengthen the bond between them.

5. Self-Awareness: Bondassage can be a transformative experience that can help clients to gain a better understanding of themselves and their bodies. By exploring new sensations and boundaries, you can gain a greater sense of self-awareness and self-acceptance.

Remember folks, Bondassage should only be performed by a trained and certified practitioner. The practitioner should also have a thorough understanding of BDSM practices and principles and should prioritize the safety and well-being of their clients at all times.

Bondassage is a unique and immersive form of sensual massage that can offer a wide range of benefits. Deep relaxation. Enhanced sensuality. Increased intimacy. An exploration of your desires.

If you’re interested in exploring Bondassage, be sure to seek out a qualified and experienced practitioner (such as myself), and approach the experience with an open and curious mindset.

Happy Bondassage,

In gratitude Taranga

To Trim or Not to Trim?

We all have different preferences when it comes to our body hair. Some enjoy a full bush while others like it neatly trimmed.There are also those who like their hair shaped. Basically, we all have different preferences which make us unique.

So many young women and men feel pressured to remove their body hair. Modern media and the porn industry depict sexuality with hairlessness, but this wasn’t always the case.

Body hair is a symbol of maturity and a new life. Biologically, our body hair collects and releases pheromones.These are the chemicals that signal sexual readiness and evoke powerful responses in our partners. Society has an obsession with having a hairless vagina because public opinion states that this is the sexier option.And this doesn’t just go for women.

Men are also now being pressured to be hairless.We all know how society loves to shift what we deem as sexy and unsexy. But, if you enjoy the feel of your body without hair, then you should continue doing that without making others feel inferior for their decision to be hairy.

So I want you to think about this.Are you grooming your body the way you like or the way you expect others to like it?

Do you enjoy your body the way it is currently? How do you like to feel? Is your regimen regarding body hair based upon what you want or what society deems as acceptable? I can go on and on with questions, but ultimately it’s important that people feel comfortable in the skin they’re in.

When it comes down to it, personal grooming is a personal choice. It should be something you like.You have every right to groom yourself to fit the way that you like to feel.There are no laws governing your hair.

Hairy Myths

Just about everything has a myth or two surrounding it and our body hair is no different. The clean-shaven vulva is neither sexier nor more hygienic than the glorious full bush. Both are beautiful, as is anything in between. As

I’ve previously stated, it all comes down to personal preference. This also applies to men. Removing our pubic hair can offer a sleek, smooth finish, but it also removes one of the most tangible signs of masculinity and virility. However, removing hair can clear the path

for anal play or other sexual acts. But practical concerns aside, our body hair is one of the most intimate aspects of our appearance. Everything we do is a reflection of our most personal choices.These choices make us unique. And there is no one outside of ourselves who can tell us what is right for us.

When it comes right down to it, we want to be accepted for who we are and the decisions we make. Without masks or games, without expectations or roles.And this extends to even the most personal aspects of how we present ourselves to one another and to the world.While we all want someone who understands us without limit, it’s important that we first understand ourselves.

So I ask this question again, what do you prefer? If you love to shave or wax, that’s amazing. Keep doing what you feel is right for you. If you’re only going through these waxing and hairless challenges to appease a man or fit in with some cultural image, dig deeper.

One of the simplest and most eloquent ways for us to take back our power is to determine what we like and how we want to implement this image into our lives. Anyone who is worth keeping around will both respect and love us for exactly what we like.

If you’re having challenges with societal pressures and want to truly find what you like for yourself, I invite you to practise relaxation and kindness. Sometimes we’re too hard on ourselves. So today, be kind not only to others but to yourself in your journey of finding what you truly enjoy.

In Gratitude

Taranga

Feeling Energy

Energy has much more meaning to it than most of us will be able to comprehend. It’s not just about lighting up huge arenas. Energy is deep and is felt in many ways. Well, in Tantra, energy is more than just an idea – it’s actually a physical force that can be controlled, played with, and felt throughout the body.

If you really think about it, energy is all around us. Each living thing in the universe contains energy. This vibrating ‘sea’ of energy is all around us and within us, connecting us to each other and to everything. But we’re not just helpless individuals in this concept of energy. We can in a way manipulate it and transfer it ourselves.

Energy in Motion

Let’s try a quick exercise. Rub your hands together as hard and quickly as you can for 10 to 20 seconds. Now hold them together so your palms are almost, but not touching. What are you experiencing? You should feel some heat and tingling, and you may even feel somewhat of a force field between your hands like they’re magnetised. What is this?

You’ve created a small electrical charge of energy all on your own.

This ‘charge’ can be redirected or transferred to another part of the body. Now let’s do something different so you can feel energy and its influence in a different way. I want you to rub your hands together again, but this time place them on your heart. Breathe deeply and feel that energy enter your chest. How does that feel?

These exercises are meant to help you realize how much influence you have on the energy in your physical being. Maybe you feel a little more connected to your emotions. Maybe you even feel a little warm inside. You’ve just created and moved energy around the body! There are many ways to do this.

Tantra teaches methods like this to create, build, and transfer energy from one place or thing to another. With this, you can create new sensations and vibrations in your being.

When energy circulates freely through the body, we’re at our happiest and healthiest. We also feel most connected to the things we enjoy. Family, friends, and even our work will receive our best selves when energy is flowing freely throughout our bodies. But when energy’s blocked, we feel lifeless and exhausted. Now, these feelings can also be caused by other things, but there’s also often a blockage in the flow of life force energy.

I want you to try this exercise to see where energy may be stuck in your body. Close your eyes and focus on your body. Which parts do you feel most? Your arms? Legs? Stomach? Genitals?

Now tune in to which parts feel less connected. Perhaps these are areas where energy is trapped and not flowing freely. These would be the areas you need to work on. And that’s where a session with me can be very beneficial.

In gratitude

Taranga

The Yoni Experience

Often as women, we are so busy in other aspects of our lives that we sometimes neglect the most important areas. In fact, I had two different women come to me, each coming out of really challenging situations, and both in need of some beautiful loving attention. Unfortunately, this isn’t unusual either.

As women, we are often put in the position of taking care of others. Our families and career often come before ourselves. But the thing is, if we aren’t fulfilled, we can’t fully give ourselves to others. We need to make sure we practise self-care and not just once in a while.

One way to do this is with Yoni massage. If you didn’t know, women are extremely sensual creatures. It’s part of who we are, how we are built. Our vaginas open up portals to other gateways and give life! We are connected to our bodies on a deep level, and we need to honour the body.

A yoni massage or full body sensual massage is an amazing way to bring in some beautiful self-love. Plus, there’s nothing like an amazing orgasm to re-energise the body and tap into deeper levels of sensuality and delight.

Women and Sexuality

Women are often more resistant to sexual pleasure-based therapies than men. Some are too shy to express their desires while others simply deem themselves too busy. There’s no shame associated with it. In fact, a yoni massage or sensual full body massage is a perfect way to reclaim our bodies and sexual desires. That’s what these therapies are specifically designed for. By allowing ourselves to orgasm, we explore our sexual selves. This is important! We allow ourselves to expand and to create a deeper connection with our bodies.

It’s crucial for women to experience touch and orgasm on a consistent basis. This helps us to reawaken our sensual selves and reconnect with our passion. Healthy self-love and touch are a way of giving back to ourselves and experiencing new levels of sexual awareness. And, when we give back to ourselves, we get back to ourselves. We’ll be at our best and able to continue to keep on giving to our wants and desires. We reclaim that sense of vitality and energy that makes life a great experience. We all deserve that.

Have you been sexually giving to yourself? Are you making a schedule to ensure you receive what you require? Have you given yourself permission to take care of your own needs, or has it been all about taking care of others? If not, now is the time. It’s time to reclaim your life and experience all that you desire.

You don’t need to be in a sexual relationship to experience your sexuality and take it to new heights.

If you’re curious about yoni massage and you’d like to know more about it, I invite you to reach out. I love to help my clients to reconnect with their bodies and embrace their sexual selves. I’m here to help remind you that your needs matter and assist in getting you back on track.

In gratitude

Taranga

Making it Last

As beings with energy flowing throughout our bodies, we want things to last. We cherish moments. We like to enjoy that euphoric feeling of not having a care in the world and doing what we love most in that moment.

Sex is one of the greatest joys of life. When it comes to something that’s good, you don’t want to rush it. And yet, that’s what happens all too often. Statistically speaking, a man will last on average 5.4 minutes. So this means things are over before they start to get really good.

If this strikes a nerve, don’t you fret. With a simple tip and some practice, anyone can make sex last longer. It takes slowing down and really experiencing the moment while understanding what’s going on with your body and the interests of your partner.

There’s one really great way to do this. And that’s edging.

For many people, the orgasm is rushed. You want to get naked, turned on, and bust. But what happens when you slow down? Let’s say you really take your time and let the sensations build up and then slow back down. Let’s say you keep doing this over and over until there’s nowhere else to turn. This is the practice of edging.

The Practice Of Edging

Edging teaches orgasm control. Through this process you build up almost to the peak, and then pull back, moving away from the orgasm. The energy builds up, then things slow down. Slowly, after doing this a few times, the sexual energy builds to levels you can’t even imagine. Once you’re past the point of no return, your orgasm will feel like nothing you’ve ever felt before.

One of the great things about edging is that it can give a man much greater control over their orgasms. Studies show, that it helps men to slow down, and listen to their body’s signals, and those of their lovers. Instead of being some grand performance, lovemaking turns into a very special intimate experience. There are many benefits to edging including stronger sex drive, more orgasm control, and even multiple orgasms.

Edging isn’t just for men. Women who practice edging enjoy some of the same pleasures. This process deepens the state of arousal and can even put you in a state of euphoria and altered consciousness when sensations peak.

Tantra and Edging

If you’ve been reading my articles for a while, you probably already have a pretty strong understanding of tantra. However, if you’re new here, tantra is a practice that helps us to explore our sexual energy. It’s about listening to our body and our feelings, learning how to tune in to our sexual energy, feel it, build it, and channel it through our body.

Tantra is not all about sex either. Tantra is about being conscious of what we’re feeling, and allowing the body and the feelings to guide us. It’s about staying in the moment and not drifting away from it.

In tantric sex, we practice feeling the energy as it rises, allowing it to fill the entire body instead of being confined to just one place which is usually the genitals. We practice moving slowly and organically without chasing some certain outcome. We also learn to connect with the breath, syncing our breathing with our lover so that we tune in to the same station, enjoying the same moment during this intimate process. Tantra is a practice. And anything that takes practice requires consistency.

This isn’t something you just learn and then you’re done. Each time you step into some sensual play with your lover, you have an opportunity to deepen your connection with your own body and that of your partner. This is a repetitive pattern that has to happen in order for you to feel what you need. Edging is a beautiful way to slow down. It forces you to get in the body and pay attention to the sensations as they come. Practicing this with your lover allows you to move as one.

As with anything I present to you, I want you to try this out for yourself. Try it out with your lover and see how it feels. Slow down and tune in, and follow those feelings. Breathe with your partner. Be in tune and in sync. Breathe the energy through the entire body and through the heart. Build again, and again until you are feeling ultimate bliss.

In gratitude

Taranga