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To Trim or Not to Trim?

We all have different preferences when it comes to our body hair. Some enjoy a full bush while others like it neatly trimmed.There are also those who like their hair shaped. Basically, we all have different preferences which make us unique.

So many young women and men feel pressured to remove their body hair. Modern media and the porn industry depict sexuality with hairlessness, but this wasn’t always the case.

Body hair is a symbol of maturity and a new life. Biologically, our body hair collects and releases pheromones.These are the chemicals that signal sexual readiness and evoke powerful responses in our partners. Society has an obsession with having a hairless vagina because public opinion states that this is the sexier option.And this doesn’t just go for women.

Men are also now being pressured to be hairless.We all know how society loves to shift what we deem as sexy and unsexy. But, if you enjoy the feel of your body without hair, then you should continue doing that without making others feel inferior for their decision to be hairy.

So I want you to think about this.Are you grooming your body the way you like or the way you expect others to like it?

Do you enjoy your body the way it is currently? How do you like to feel? Is your regimen regarding body hair based upon what you want or what society deems as acceptable? I can go on and on with questions, but ultimately it’s important that people feel comfortable in the skin they’re in.

When it comes down to it, personal grooming is a personal choice. It should be something you like.You have every right to groom yourself to fit the way that you like to feel.There are no laws governing your hair.

Hairy Myths

Just about everything has a myth or two surrounding it and our body hair is no different. The clean-shaven vulva is neither sexier nor more hygienic than the glorious full bush. Both are beautiful, as is anything in between. As

I’ve previously stated, it all comes down to personal preference. This also applies to men. Removing our pubic hair can offer a sleek, smooth finish, but it also removes one of the most tangible signs of masculinity and virility. However, removing hair can clear the path

for anal play or other sexual acts. But practical concerns aside, our body hair is one of the most intimate aspects of our appearance. Everything we do is a reflection of our most personal choices.These choices make us unique. And there is no one outside of ourselves who can tell us what is right for us.

When it comes right down to it, we want to be accepted for who we are and the decisions we make. Without masks or games, without expectations or roles.And this extends to even the most personal aspects of how we present ourselves to one another and to the world.While we all want someone who understands us without limit, it’s important that we first understand ourselves.

So I ask this question again, what do you prefer? If you love to shave or wax, that’s amazing. Keep doing what you feel is right for you. If you’re only going through these waxing and hairless challenges to appease a man or fit in with some cultural image, dig deeper.

One of the simplest and most eloquent ways for us to take back our power is to determine what we like and how we want to implement this image into our lives. Anyone who is worth keeping around will both respect and love us for exactly what we like.

If you’re having challenges with societal pressures and want to truly find what you like for yourself, I invite you to practise relaxation and kindness. Sometimes we’re too hard on ourselves. So today, be kind not only to others but to yourself in your journey of finding what you truly enjoy.

In Gratitude

Taranga

Feeling Energy

Energy has much more meaning to it than most of us will be able to comprehend. It’s not just about lighting up huge arenas. Energy is deep and is felt in many ways. Well, in Tantra, energy is more than just an idea – it’s actually a physical force that can be controlled, played with, and felt throughout the body.

If you really think about it, energy is all around us. Each living thing in the universe contains energy. This vibrating ‘sea’ of energy is all around us and within us, connecting us to each other and to everything. But we’re not just helpless individuals in this concept of energy. We can in a way manipulate it and transfer it ourselves.

Energy in Motion

Let’s try a quick exercise. Rub your hands together as hard and quickly as you can for 10 to 20 seconds. Now hold them together so your palms are almost, but not touching. What are you experiencing? You should feel some heat and tingling, and you may even feel somewhat of a force field between your hands like they’re magnetised. What is this?

You’ve created a small electrical charge of energy all on your own.

This ‘charge’ can be redirected or transferred to another part of the body. Now let’s do something different so you can feel energy and its influence in a different way. I want you to rub your hands together again, but this time place them on your heart. Breathe deeply and feel that energy enter your chest. How does that feel?

These exercises are meant to help you realize how much influence you have on the energy in your physical being. Maybe you feel a little more connected to your emotions. Maybe you even feel a little warm inside. You’ve just created and moved energy around the body! There are many ways to do this.

Tantra teaches methods like this to create, build, and transfer energy from one place or thing to another. With this, you can create new sensations and vibrations in your being.

When energy circulates freely through the body, we’re at our happiest and healthiest. We also feel most connected to the things we enjoy. Family, friends, and even our work will receive our best selves when energy is flowing freely throughout our bodies. But when energy’s blocked, we feel lifeless and exhausted. Now, these feelings can also be caused by other things, but there’s also often a blockage in the flow of life force energy.

I want you to try this exercise to see where energy may be stuck in your body. Close your eyes and focus on your body. Which parts do you feel most? Your arms? Legs? Stomach? Genitals?

Now tune in to which parts feel less connected. Perhaps these are areas where energy is trapped and not flowing freely. These would be the areas you need to work on. And that’s where a session with me can be very beneficial.

In gratitude

Taranga

The Yoni Experience

Often as women, we are so busy in other aspects of our lives that we sometimes neglect the most important areas. In fact, I had two different women come to me, each coming out of really challenging situations, and both in need of some beautiful loving attention. Unfortunately, this isn’t unusual either.

As women, we are often put in the position of taking care of others. Our families and career often come before ourselves. But the thing is, if we aren’t fulfilled, we can’t fully give ourselves to others. We need to make sure we practise self-care and not just once in a while.

One way to do this is with Yoni massage. If you didn’t know, women are extremely sensual creatures. It’s part of who we are, how we are built. Our vaginas open up portals to other gateways and give life! We are connected to our bodies on a deep level, and we need to honour the body.

A yoni massage or full body sensual massage is an amazing way to bring in some beautiful self-love. Plus, there’s nothing like an amazing orgasm to re-energise the body and tap into deeper levels of sensuality and delight.

Women and Sexuality

Women are often more resistant to sexual pleasure-based therapies than men. Some are too shy to express their desires while others simply deem themselves too busy. There’s no shame associated with it. In fact, a yoni massage or sensual full body massage is a perfect way to reclaim our bodies and sexual desires. That’s what these therapies are specifically designed for. By allowing ourselves to orgasm, we explore our sexual selves. This is important! We allow ourselves to expand and to create a deeper connection with our bodies.

It’s crucial for women to experience touch and orgasm on a consistent basis. This helps us to reawaken our sensual selves and reconnect with our passion. Healthy self-love and touch are a way of giving back to ourselves and experiencing new levels of sexual awareness. And, when we give back to ourselves, we get back to ourselves. We’ll be at our best and able to continue to keep on giving to our wants and desires. We reclaim that sense of vitality and energy that makes life a great experience. We all deserve that.

Have you been sexually giving to yourself? Are you making a schedule to ensure you receive what you require? Have you given yourself permission to take care of your own needs, or has it been all about taking care of others? If not, now is the time. It’s time to reclaim your life and experience all that you desire.

You don’t need to be in a sexual relationship to experience your sexuality and take it to new heights.

If you’re curious about yoni massage and you’d like to know more about it, I invite you to reach out. I love to help my clients to reconnect with their bodies and embrace their sexual selves. I’m here to help remind you that your needs matter and assist in getting you back on track.

In gratitude

Taranga

Making it Last

As beings with energy flowing throughout our bodies, we want things to last. We cherish moments. We like to enjoy that euphoric feeling of not having a care in the world and doing what we love most in that moment.

Sex is one of the greatest joys of life. When it comes to something that’s good, you don’t want to rush it. And yet, that’s what happens all too often. Statistically speaking, a man will last on average 5.4 minutes. So this means things are over before they start to get really good.

If this strikes a nerve, don’t you fret. With a simple tip and some practice, anyone can make sex last longer. It takes slowing down and really experiencing the moment while understanding what’s going on with your body and the interests of your partner.

There’s one really great way to do this. And that’s edging.

For many people, the orgasm is rushed. You want to get naked, turned on, and bust. But what happens when you slow down? Let’s say you really take your time and let the sensations build up and then slow back down. Let’s say you keep doing this over and over until there’s nowhere else to turn. This is the practice of edging.

The Practice Of Edging

Edging teaches orgasm control. Through this process you build up almost to the peak, and then pull back, moving away from the orgasm. The energy builds up, then things slow down. Slowly, after doing this a few times, the sexual energy builds to levels you can’t even imagine. Once you’re past the point of no return, your orgasm will feel like nothing you’ve ever felt before.

One of the great things about edging is that it can give a man much greater control over their orgasms. Studies show, that it helps men to slow down, and listen to their body’s signals, and those of their lovers. Instead of being some grand performance, lovemaking turns into a very special intimate experience. There are many benefits to edging including stronger sex drive, more orgasm control, and even multiple orgasms.

Edging isn’t just for men. Women who practice edging enjoy some of the same pleasures. This process deepens the state of arousal and can even put you in a state of euphoria and altered consciousness when sensations peak.

Tantra and Edging

If you’ve been reading my articles for a while, you probably already have a pretty strong understanding of tantra. However, if you’re new here, tantra is a practice that helps us to explore our sexual energy. It’s about listening to our body and our feelings, learning how to tune in to our sexual energy, feel it, build it, and channel it through our body.

Tantra is not all about sex either. Tantra is about being conscious of what we’re feeling, and allowing the body and the feelings to guide us. It’s about staying in the moment and not drifting away from it.

In tantric sex, we practice feeling the energy as it rises, allowing it to fill the entire body instead of being confined to just one place which is usually the genitals. We practice moving slowly and organically without chasing some certain outcome. We also learn to connect with the breath, syncing our breathing with our lover so that we tune in to the same station, enjoying the same moment during this intimate process. Tantra is a practice. And anything that takes practice requires consistency.

This isn’t something you just learn and then you’re done. Each time you step into some sensual play with your lover, you have an opportunity to deepen your connection with your own body and that of your partner. This is a repetitive pattern that has to happen in order for you to feel what you need. Edging is a beautiful way to slow down. It forces you to get in the body and pay attention to the sensations as they come. Practicing this with your lover allows you to move as one.

As with anything I present to you, I want you to try this out for yourself. Try it out with your lover and see how it feels. Slow down and tune in, and follow those feelings. Breathe with your partner. Be in tune and in sync. Breathe the energy through the entire body and through the heart. Build again, and again until you are feeling ultimate bliss.

In gratitude

Taranga

The Tantra Massage

Tantra is a familiar term to many, but there are still some that don’t know the true meaning of the word. When you think of the word tantra, sexual desires and other naughty thoughts may come to mind. If you dig a bit deeper, your curiosity may in fact lead you down a more sensual path than you expected.

It’s by reading about tantric techniques and philosophy that we learn its true meaning. However, Tantra is more than just knowledge and ideas. It’s experiential. Tantra is a feeling, an experience. It’s something that is learned through the body rather than the mind. To explore tantra, you have to be with a partner who understands the finer details. This is doubly important when seeking out the attentions of a practitioner.

The best way to begin the bodily exploration of tantra is with a Tantra Massage from an experienced provider. Many of my clients tell me that they’ve wanted to do this session for a long time but have been putting it off. We all know that life happens, but if you want to take it to the next level, visiting a tantric practitioner is the best way to get a full experience.

Tantra Experience

A Tantra Massage is about more than just a sexual experience. It’s sensual on a level that’s deeper than many can comprehend. It’s about tuning into those erotic feelings and turning up your sexual energy. Through sensation and breath, you practice allowing the energy to rise up from the genitals and flow through the entire body system. The experience is like no other and will have you ready to quench your sexual thirst again and again. You breathe the energy throughout the body, and the more you breathe, the more you feel. While this is a simple technique, it has the potential to deeply transform your sensual experience in every aspect of your life.

Without training, our sexuality is often unconscious. Most don’t think about sexuality beyond what appears on the surface. A Tantra Massage teaches us to go slow. We take our time with the massage paying attention to the entire body. We build the energy gradually and saturate the entire body through breath.

Going slow is key. Feeling every moment is paramount.

The tantric experience can be beautiful and overwhelming for some. The results are phenomenal and addicting. Some have stated they’ve experienced body orgasms. These types of orgasms are much different than ejaculation. Ejaculation is an outward explosion of energy that we can physically see. In a body orgasm, though, the energy is built and magnified until it explodes inwardly in a torrent of sensation. We feel it in every part of our being. While ejaculation is amazing and fun, a body orgasm is an experience that can only really be felt.

I invite you to go ahead and indulge your curiosity. Stimulate your mind and study this experience. Then, when you really want to explore tantra, take it into the body. A Tantra Massage can take your sexual experiences to new heights. It will also invite an entire range of new sensations into your body.

When you’re ready to feel the difference within your body and deepen your knowledge of tantra, book with me for a Tantra Massage.

In gratitude

Taranga

The Meaning of Tantra

I’m sure you’ve seen the word tantra many times and maybe even done some research on your own surrounding its meaning. Tantra is about all life. In tantra, sex is the metaphor for learning presence, true embodiment, and full aliveness. Tantra is a path to learning ourselves and learning to really feel every moment in life.

Our feelings are powerful. Extremely powerful. When you don’t deal with your feelings, they linger around and pop back up whenever triggered. While there are several ways to block these feelings, one way to accomplish this is by distracting ourselves. Getting our minds going and dropping out of our bodies.

Try this. What does your pinky toe feel like? You probably haven’t really thought about how it feels until now. That’s because the mentioning of it is bringing it to your attention. There’s so much to feel within our bodies in any moment that if we are able to really be present to it, we wouldn’t have time to obsess or concoct stories for situations that don’t currently exist.

Accepting Our Feelings

Tantra is all about acceptance, on the deepest level you can imagine. It’s all about truly feeling everything. When we try to hold away feelings, we are rejecting them. In rejecting something within us, we split ourselves. We do not show our true selves. We create a conflict inside, and with that comes confusion. It blocks our energy and connection to the world. By accepting all of our feelings, we begin to feel free.

Acceptance is also the key to transformation. When we reject a part of ourselves, we split it away from the part connected with our will and identity. In order to truly live in bliss, we have to accept that hurt person inside. We have to accept every part of ourselves so we can be aligned.

Sex is one of the most profound and sensual experiences that a human being can have. This is why many correlate tantra with sex. Two people come together in an explosion of feeling, an inner urge. Their souls connecting and creating an experience that can’t be replicated. The mind can come in to try to control the situation, and shape it somehow.

The practice of tantra helps us to learn how to let go of the mind again and just follow the energy. This allows us to feel more than we’ve ever felt and enjoy the experience in the moment without a thought of anything else.

Practicing Tantra

Sex is a great way to teach tantra because the sensations across our skin and the rising energy in our body are so powerful and present. It helps us to learn to live in the moment. But you don’t stop there. Tantra teaches us to bring that same level of awareness into our body at all times. To make life a sensual experience. And by doing so, we hear when emotions emerge and learn to process them at that moment rather than burying them in the surface later. Learn how to interact with from a more realistic and fulfilling place.

Tantra is the pillar of many of my articles and teachings you’ll find on my website. I’ll explore this topic more and how it effects our lives in different ways in future articles. In closing, I want you to think about tantra and how you can implement it into your daily life. Need help? I’m available for sessions.

In gratitude

Taranga

It’s holiday season once again! Time to party with family and friends and celebrate the times we’ve shared through the year. Time to give thanks for both the blessings and the trials.

The last year has been massive! The natural world has been in crisis. Here in NSW we’ve seen flood after flood. We’ve seen almost unimaginable scenes of whole towns underwater and destroyed.

The human world is just as hectic. These are tough times, and a lot of people are hurting. Interest rates have risen eight times this year alone, and prices are rising across the board. Our economy is feeling the impact of a distant war and the pressure is still mounting.

During this holiday season I’m reminded of the importance of listening to the still, small voice within. The universe is always shifting, sending us down unfamiliar paths and priming us for our highest growth. One door closes and another opens.

One shift for me personally was that I’ve decided to let go of OnlyFans. In the end, the path did not feel right to me, but I’ve had a learning experience. It’s been a huge journey of discovery, and I’m so grateful to all of you who have supported me along the way.

On another note, I’ve done seven housesits over the year. I’ve been loving it, and it’s inspired me to consider going nomad on a permanent basis. Adventure time is calling! I want to cross the Nullarbor, and explore Perth, and generally put myself in the way of beauty. Soak up life’s treasures. I can almost hear Gandolf’s voice, “The world is not in your doilies, it’s out there!”

The message that keeps coming through for me this season is: Less is Best. We’re all a bit squeezed right now, but that doesn’t have to stop us from having a rich, joy-filled life and beautiful connections. Beautiful experiences.

There are so many little things that we can do that have a big impact on our lives, both saving money and improving our quality of life. We can purchase fewer presents, for one. Instead, we can share time with our friends and loved ones, or create things they might enjoy. Instead of going to huge parties or expensive outings, we could get in touch with ourselves by taking a walk along the beach. Or camping. Or house sitting.

Most of the things that make life worth living are free. And there are so many ways we can thrive in these strange and ever-changing times. We can show up for one another, to lighten the load and ease the journey. And we can show up for ourselves.

Having said that, I am still offering my services throughout the holiday season! There’s no better time for a relaxing massage to unwind and start the New Year off right. And nothing like a sensual massage to help release tensions and reboot. If you’d like support in these intense times, I’m here.

Have brilliant times this Christmas season, whatever you get up to!

In deep gratitude Taranga

The early stages of a relationship can seem quite magical. You always want to be around your partner and your face lights up just from hearing their name. Everyone loves the beginning stages of a relationship, right? Unfortunately, somewhere along the way, tension starts to enter your blissful atmosphere.

We might start to become more irritable about things that didn’t bother us before. Things that you thought were cute and innocent about your partner may not seem as small anymore. Little by little, it becomes harder to stay in that space of euphoric connection that seemed inexhaustible in the beginning. But this doesn’t have to be the case.

The truth is that we all need personal time to get centered and clear. Of course, we enjoy our partner, but being underneath them all the time isn’t realistic or healthy. It’s important that we rest our minds, come back to balance, and be in the space where we can bring the best of ourselves into any interaction. I know it’s easy to forget the word “space” when we’re in a new and exciting relationship, but it’s imperative for a long-lasting connection.

When we spend time with others, we tune in to them energetically. Things become linked and we synch our vibrations. You begin to feel what they feel and those emotions can run through you. We create a different space and a separate connection than the one we have with ourselves. It can be fascinating to sync vibrations with others, but it can be overwhelming at times.

Enjoy Your Energy

By making time to ourselves early on in the relationship, we’re protecting our own energy and wants along with the desires of our partner. Even a walk alone or a ten-minute space of personal time can let us tune in to ourselves. Our focus comes back to the center and we begin to focus on our needs and not just the ones in our relationship. This is something your mind and body need. This is the time we take for ourselves to figure out what we desire in the moment.

Personal time is essential for a healthy and lasting relationship. The demands of life often keep us running like we’re in a rat race. From working, taking care of other responsibilities, and even tending to familial relationships, we’re always busy. With so many things claiming our urgent attention, a little alone time is always the last thing on the list of things to do. But that’s the remedy we need to center ourselves.

Having alone time is just as important as eating healthy and exercising. While we can survive without it, we’re not giving the best version of ourselves when we don’t have it. Without feeding that need for space, the lack starts to catch up with us and we aren’t ourselves. We become distracted and not pleasant to be around. Every aspect of our lives changes when we don’t center ourselves. Every aspect of our lives also changes when we do center ourselves.

Today I want you to take some time and center yourself. Take 10 minutes out of your day and spend it alone. Block everything else out. Feel your energy running through your body and tend to the parts that seem blocked off. By doing this you will strengthen your connection with not only your partner but with yourself as well.

In gratitude,

Taranga